Men's Sexuality for Women...jk for Men too part 1

**Butterflylily** · 11-14-2010 11:00 AM

So, if anyone knows me here, you would know i have problems with my bf because hes sexuality has just been ignored by women who are obssed with toys etc..anyway, So ive been researching and reading alot about Mens Sexuality to show him that I care about him, and that I really want to help him, So i thought id share with all of you ^______^

ok..First of all just to clear one thing out...Some rumors..

"After a guy Comes hes useless.."
This is...its like saying "My water tastes better than yours" its all in your head and its not true, ive read Men can have Multiple Orgasm yep, maybe different than the ones we have but they can, Just because i guy ISNT ejaculating doesn't mean hes not having a Orgasm. Another thing is its all about practice Ive seen in gay porn some Men can have many many multiple Non-Ejaculative Orgasm and can have a like 3 or 4 Ejaculating orgasms. And around after the 4th one they get all tired and stop. However with more practice (just like this) im sure they can keep going.

Vibrating Rings I read they help a Man stay erected for long. And one thing you dont understand is, that just because a guy isnt Hard (Erection) doesnt mean he cant have a orgasm also, its still possible.

"Its easy to pleasure a guy"
This one is not true also, if your a man or women and your reading, Just stroking a penis isnt the only way to make him orgasm, Ive read Rubbing and Playing with his Penis Head, maybe doesnt feel as good as stroking but It turns out the orgasm from doing this feels better and its more Longer, Intense than just stroking. There alot of Ways to pleasure a man, theres also, the bottom (Under side) of his penis, Anal Stimulation and his Testicles also.

"Men's masturbation is the same and boring, us women are more Interesting"
Us women more interesting is true XD Jk just bothering you anyway, but that is also not SOOOO not true,
im gonna write down some ways ive found out that make a man Orgasm..

1-Stroking his Penis

2-Rubbing Head with Fingers in circular motion, back and forth very fast, Using your skin on the penis head to help rub the head while its lubricated ( do not use your raw Fingers on the Head or it will hurt lot and become Irritated)

3-Pumping, Putting pressure on the bottom of his penis while rubbing (just like we Put pressure on our Pelvis and rub our clit) just like that

4-Combining Some of these^, like Rubbing Between Testicle while stroking etc

5-The Skin between testicle and his um.. "Behind Hole", if you rub it well I read it wont make a Ejaculative Orgasm but it gives Exciting Non-Ejaculating Orgasm.

6-Toys, of course men have their own toys (which people think are weird, but if we use them why cant the? right? ^__~)

7-Just holding your penis Erected, Exposing your penis head to Warm air, yes believe it or not I read it gives "Wonderfully Amazing Orgasms" yes ORGASMS (Plural) not Orgasm,however ive read only some men do this and works.

8- Just like some women, gushing warm water (from a Shower head or something) straight to the head of the penis will also give you a sexy orgasms (multiple non-ejaculative and Ejaculative)

9-This one will sound funny but its the same as Number 3, the only difference is, feels different and easier, Humping (Pumping and Rubbing) the under side of the penis on a Pillow or something fluffy also will make you orgasm. Kind like Dry Humping a girl, but it takes long though.

10- And of course number 10, the best way a Guy has to orgasm is stimulating his G-Spot inside his "Behind", very hard I read, but i read its "Other Worldly" meaning that well i guess it feels extremely good.

All these ways, ive yet to experiment them with my bf but soon, i hope hes willing to though =(. Anyway, lets continue ^_____^

"Vibrator to us is what porn is to men"
Seriously? NOOOO look, "Porn is to Women what Porn is to Men" its as simple as that, everything else is lies.

"Vibrators and Many toys are best for Women"
"Vibrators are better than men etc"
Ok, i really wanted to touch this one, here goes...

A Vibrator to a Women's clit is what a Vibrator to a Mans Head is. actually..believe it or not, our Little friend who sometimes helps us get off quick, is best Parthnered with a man rather than us..True Women love Vibrators so much because, some women cant Orgasm...And once we try it were like "WOW", we love the feeling cause its different "not better"...

However now...lets look at this...Imagine if men couldnt orgasm...They try masturbating but they give up...imagine a Man never having a Orgasm, imagine how Sensitive his penis will be, just like us...... Imagine if after 10, 15 or more years of no Orgasm "Cumming" a Man uses a Vibrator on his Head...Testicle and A Finger Vibrator while stroking it, Just imagine it...

The thing is theres no difference between us having a Orgasm with a Vibrator than If a Guy uses a vibrator on himself. Actually a Guy gets more pleasure from a Vibrator then we do, A Penis is full of nerves and there more of the penis inside him. I read that doctors say we have more nerves in our Vagina than men, but the thing is.."Everyone is different".

Ive read stories about some men (Some gay and some straight) saying that they can pleasure themselves in so many different ways, and when they orgasm its no different from a seeing a Woman Orgasm (meaning full body Orgasm).

The thing is...If our Clit was Longer like around 3 or 4 inches, that we could stroke it etc then women would think differently before saying things.

"Men are jealous of our Vibrators"
The only reason this is true, is because that man hasnt tried vibrating himself etc, or Using a Vibrator for Anal Stimulation (G-spot) which I read is really something else. The thing is Men cant do what Vibrators do to our Clit true,...... its not better its just Different feelings, Different Orgasm,.... but its the same thing for them.... We cant do to their G-Spot or Penis what a Vibrator can, The Feeling is different and the Orgasm they get is Different (Like i said not better)

"Vibrators and Toys like Rabbit are the best!!!"

Remember...If we could have Orgasms as frequent and Easy as men can, Vibrators would feel different and women wouldnt Love vibrators so much. But i guess its just because Women are more sensitive cause well.....our body works different than Men......

....Men touch themselves more and Orgasm more frequent than us.......
which is hard for some women thats why most of us tend to be more Sensitive, but theres no difference between men using Vibrators and Women using vibrators.

The thing to remember here is...There is nothing better or Inferior, Toys to both are the same. just different, im sure if Men would be just like us, it would bother us that he could only get off with a Vibrator.

The True Term would be....
"Vibrators to Women are what Vibrator are to Men" no difference, just ask a guy to not masturbate for 1 or 3 years and then tell him to use a Vibrator on his Head and you'll see with your own eyes.

Anyway im tired phew...Ill write part 2 when i have it ready i just wanted to share with you guys =), My bf is insanely concerned about my pleasure and I wanna do the same to him ^__^, cya guys till then!!!

**WildChild** · 11-14-2010 11:26 AM

I appreciate that you are doing all this reading. Do be careful though with your information sources and assumptions. Anyone can put anything on the internet and can sound pretty definitive about it even when it's nonsense. Just as with women, what is true for some men is not true for all.

I will point out a for clarification here:

"The thing is theres no difference between us having a Orgasm with a Vibrator than If a Guy uses a vibrator on himself. Actually a Guy gets more pleasure from a Vibrator then we do, A Penis is full of nerves and there more of the penis inside him. I read that doctors say we have more nerves in our Vagina than men, but the thing is.."Everyone is different"."

You cannot generalize women's or men's responses to a vibrator. There is no way for a woman to know what any other woman really feels althoug we can assume that it is close to what we, as another woman feels, we cannot guess what a man, any man, feels. Their anatomy is different. We can assume. logically, that the sexual expereince is pretty similar for both but we can't really know.

Both the penis and the clitorus have nerves that extend into the body. The clitorus is estimated to have 8000 nerve endings while the penis has about 4000. However, I have never seen any detail on this information as to whether this refers to just the glans or includes the shaft, or if it is refering to a circumcised or uncircumsized penis. Certainly the penis spreads it all out over a larger area than the clitorus.

The vagina itself has very few nerve endings, which makes sense. Childbirth would be a whole different thing otherwise. As it is birthing is intense with the stretching and effort required, if we could feel the movement through the vaginal canal I doubt we would have a population control concern.

In truth very little is known about the mechanics of sexual response as compared to our knowledge about other areas of health and the body. We just beginning to learn what goes on in the body and brain with this marvelous activity called sex and orgasm. Its an amazing field of study but what goes on in people's heads can override the physical in some strange ways. Your bfs behavior is based in his thinking not his anatomy or physical structure.

**ItsASecret** · 11-14-2010 11:38 AM

I have never seen any detail on this information as to whether this refers to just the glans or includes the shaft, or if it is refering to a circumcised or uncircumsized penis. Certainly the penis spreads it all out over a larger area than the clitorus.

Pretty sure it would just be the glans of the penis with the ~4000 nerve endings. There may be ~8000 nerve endings lets say in the entire penis, glans and shaft because there is nerves along the entire area but the clitoris is the exception...that one is ~8000 nerves in just that small area not including the anatomical hidden part that technically is a shaft inside the body (though I doubt there is a relatively significant amount of nerves on those deeply hidden parts anyway).

Exciting Non-Ejaculating Orgasm

Personally I believe non-ejaculative orgasms still involve the contractions, some people say they do not and instead it is more of a tingle "hey that feels good". I have done everything on your list and I do not feel like I have ever given my bf a non-ejaculative orgasm, I believe I have made him feel good but not an orgasm good. If I see contractions with no semen then yes I believe I will have done it. But that definition is different for people.

**Butterflylily** · 11-14-2010 12:22 PM

Thats what i mean by Non_ejaculating sorry, I left alot of other stuff out but yeah thats what I mean. Usually when a guy is close to orgasm stop and massaging will get him there I read.

My bf yeah, hes just sooo convinced that a Vibrator is everything to a women, and that the only point in sex is him using a Vibe :/, Im trying to help but thats what he believes It seems maybe back then he was insecure about it but, now he seems comfortable with it....the problem is....a little TOO comfortable with it.

But ive seen Men sexuality is ignored alot, but it just seems to me theres no difference..I dont see how A Vibrator to a Women is Better than A Vibrator to a Man, its kinda "Sexist" but i guess some men are different.

**WildChild** · 11-14-2010 12:41 PM

Butterfly dear, you have to remember that for a few thousand years men's sexuality as been treated as the only sexuality that counts. Women's sexuality has been denied to exist, repressed, depressed, punished in some cases by death, surgically removed (millions of women in our time have been vicitms of FGM) and disregarded. We have a lot to learn, heal and rediscover for women and men to learn to share a delightful union.

**Hopeless Dork** · 11-14-2010 12:58 PM

Originally Posted by Butterflylily

But ive seen Men sexuality is ignored alot, but it just seems to me theres no difference..I dont see how A Vibrator to a Women is Better than A Vibrator to a Man, its kinda "Sexist" but i guess some men are different.

Perhaps your boyfriends sexuality was ignored with previous partner(s)... but do not let that make you think that all the poor men in the world are having their sexuality ignored. Its truly not the case. There are still practices in place in some cultures where the clitoris of a young girl is removed so that she can never experience sex for pleasure and simply be a prop for her husbands pleasure and child birth.

The media has always and still makes sure that we all get our fill of seeing women sexualized for the benefit of men. How many times have you seen breasts or full frontal female nudity in a film (not x rated) and how many times have you seen a penis (even not erect) in a mainstream film... the ratio is rediculous. Probably 1 penis per 20 thousand female nude scenes.

Women who have a lot of partners or enjoy sex are still considered sloots while men are still considered studs for the exact same thing.

You will never, or rarely ever read a post from a guy saying " I've never had an orgasm" or... " I am not sure if i just had an orgasm". Where as you will see countless females with this problem. I've read studies where there is an extremely high ratio of women that never orgasm during sex, guys tend to orgasm during sex, the very nature of sex for most couples starts when he is aroused and ends when he finishes.

So I just don't feel there is this huge problem with society ignoring the sexual needs of men while females are flourishing with their dildos. Most women need an emotional connection or to feel wanted and desired to enjoy sex. Most men just need a willing body that they are attracted to , be it in person, or on a computer or on paper in a magazine.

I am not discounting their need for variety of stimulus in getting them to feel pleasure in new and exciting ways during sex, I'm all for it. But the oh the poor things rational goes right over my head, it doesn't make sense to me.

It sounds like your boyfriend had a bad incident with a gf with a dildo and has blown it way out of proportion and has now developed some fears of inadequacy that he will need to work through on his own. It could be that he is using that as an excuse for some other fear about sex that he has as well. Its great for you to learn new ways to please him, its great for you to try to reassure him that you don't prefer a vibrator to him... but please don't mistake this isolated situation with all men in the world being ignored sexually... its just not the way it is.

**Butterflylily** · 11-14-2010 01:04 PM

Awwww no wait

i didnt want anyone to feel bad, this thread isnt to make women feel bad, im just sharing what ive discovered of Men sexuality, I mean true our Sexuality has been ignored ALOT also but...I kinda dont agree with what you said about "few thousand years men's sexuality as been treated as the only sexuality that counts" I wouldnt say that though Wildchild...I mean alot of men are selfish very true but,...... for Example Porn isnt just focusin on Mens Fantasy, I mean the Whole thing of Porn is "Hot Chick and There Hot Bodies having Sex".

You dont even see the man's face sometimes. The thing is...the "Sexuality of Men" that you say seems to be wrong in alot of ways, thanks to Porn and everything, everyone believes Men are just easy to pleasure and once they cum thats it, thats why Toys and stuff.... they focus on Women Sexuality more cause they believe Men's Sexuality Boring and repetitive, but thats just what im sharing here. Its just to share because im sure alot of people believe A Man Sexuality is just Stroking, Oral and Having sex but there more to it, just like there is more to us.

The thing is...back then Women's Sexuality was ignored and it seems soon its gonna be Men's Sexuality being ignored. Because well...im sorry but to me it looks you kinda hate me HD, no offense

, just sounds kinda mean...you seem like that kinda of women who hurted my bf...but the thing is...Men some pigs and deserve there sexuality to be ignore but...not all men are the same, I mean not all men watch porn for this same reason because they know it bother women see?

but even though there are Great guys like that(some lol)...still alot of people will judge them like the things your saying now.

**Butterflylily** · 11-14-2010 01:11 PM

The thing is...not all men are the same...so you should think twice before saying stuff, thats why I dont brag about how good my Vibrator feels etc..but it seems to me alot of people dont understand that but nvm..i guess men sexuality will always be classified as something bad no matter what, but im just sharing so you discover new things to try with your husbands etc ^____^ sorry if I made anyone feel bad...this thread wasnt meant to hurt women but i guess things are just the way they are, im very sorry

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**Hopeless Dork** · 11-14-2010 01:13 PM

Um... I am the exact opposite of what you just judged me to be. I don't use vibrators or dildo's. I am sexually submissive and service my boyfriend like it is my purpose for being. Giving him pleasure gives me more pleasure than anything else in the world. Everything I do in the bedroom is geared at making him feel good. I touch and stroke and lick and rub every square inch of his body, from back rubs to foot rubs to blow jobs that go on forever. I am not the kind of girl that hurt your boyfriend. I don't hate you, am not mean to you... I simply completely disagree with your notion that men are some how being sexually ignored by society.

**WildChild** · 11-14-2010 01:22 PM

Originally Posted by ItsASecret

Pretty sure it would just be the glans of the penis with the ~4000 nerve endings. There may be ~8000 nerve endings lets say in the entire penis, glans and shaft because there is nerves along the entire area but the clitoris is the exception...that one is ~8000 nerves in just that small area not including the anatomical hidden part that technically is a shaft inside the body (though I doubt there is a relatively significant amount of nerves on those deeply hidden parts anyway).

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Assuming or being pretty sure doesn't confirm. LOL I know you know that. I just wonder why I've never seen any clarification on that. I do get annoyed with "studies" or "research" that fails to report in a manner that is clear.

I know men who have non ejaculatory orgasms. I'll have to ask how that differs. I was part of a group last week end that had a lively discussion on the subject of multiple male orgasm. The men were quite clear that ejaculation and orgasm are different things and do not have to go together.