Thread: Diminishing eye contact during sex?

I am normally a shy guy and eye contact can be hard. However, with the relationship I'm in now, we would lock into each others gaze and the intensity was amazing. I really believe that this took our relationship from just having sex to passionate love making.

Thinking back, I can't recall if we did it the entire time, but it sure felt like it. Obviously this is in missionary position and if we were doing other things eye contact would be broken, but otherwise it felt like we always stayed locked into each others gaze. Again, this brought the passion to the highest level I've felt in my life.

So I'm posting here because lately, she is not doing this. She'll stare at me for a minute or less, and then close her eyes and get lost in the moment. She certainly seems like she is enjoying herself, in some ways more than ever, but for some reason the eye contact is deminishing.

It might sound weird coming from a guy, but this makes me feel like she is just having sex with me instead of making love. I almost want to say during sex something like look into my eyes, or even bring it up afterwards, but I hesitate because even though communication is so important, I feel somethings are best when they are naturally expressed and left unsaid.

So if any women can answer, have you been with a partner where you would have that locked gaze and then eased off on that? I guess you can tell what I'm afraid it means: that she doesn't feel the same anymore.

Again, I know her well enough to know she is extremely turned on during sex, but this has been happening more and it's making me feel a little distant.

She closes her eyes now after a minute almost as if she is shy or it makes her a little uncomfortable, and I know some people are like that, I was one of them, but we've long got past that, so it seems weird that this is now happening.

I am typically an eyes closed kind of girl. I like to feel rather than see... and closing off one of your senses can open up the others tremdendously. Men tend to be more visual and love watching everything from the expression on their lovers face, her body, the penetration, looking into her eyes... but women can vary on this and each individual woman can vary on it as well.

I always open my eyes to look into my boyfriends, or to see his face when he is feeling pleasure, or to watch him pleasure me. But sometimes the feelings are so intense that I have to close my eyes and just feel, listen, smell and taste.

It doesn't mean that she is not making love to you, she might just be so relaxed and feeling so much pleasure that she just wants to close her eyes and enjoy it. There is nothing... NOTHING... I love more than opening up my eyes during sex and finding my boyfriends eyes locked right back on to mine. I feel so sexy and so loved and he is so in me, inside of my body and my heart in those moments that there just is no greater pleasure to me than that. So i can understand your desire to see her look into your eyes during sex. But it sounds like she is doing that, just not the entire time... and I don't think you should take that negatively, but rather take that as a sign that she is feeling so good.

When you get a relaxing body massage do you keep your eyes open the entire time? or do you close them and just enjoy the sensations? When you take a bite of something delectiable do you ever close your eyes and say mmmmmmmmmmmmm. Its just natural I think and as long as she is still locking into your eyes for periods of time during sex it sounds like shes meeting your need to have that happen at least some of the time... thats a fair compromise and nothing you should worry about.

There is nothing... NOTHING... I love more than opening up my eyes during sex and finding my boyfriends eyes locked right back on to mine.

Well, I'm glad to hear that, because even when she's closing her eyes now, I can't help but continue to look, so when she does open them, I'm already looking. This was actually making me feel self-conscious (like I'm staring too much) and in turn I've found I've closed my eyes now sometimes.

You mention compromise, but again, she would practically stayed locked with me the entire time before, and it was that way for a good while. It felt like she couldn't help but stare into my eyes, and I felt the same and still do.

Just wondering if it could be a sign that it's too intense vs my original concerns of it becoming just sex.