Do you consider it weird? Or not?

**collegegirl2010** · 11-21-2010 05:10 PM

I'm still a virgin and I'm 18, which I'm okay with, because I want to wait til I find the right guy...But I've never had my first kiss, and that kind of bothers me... Sometimes It bothers me to still be a virgin, because I feel left out, but everytime a guy wants to or tries to have sex with me I hate the feeling of being used (which is why I'm still a virgin)...But not ever having my first kiss bothers me even more. Is it okay to not have ever kissed a guy at my age? or do you consider it weird?

**Bellalla** · 11-21-2010 05:30 PM

Not weird at all, actually kind of awesome. It's rare that young women refuse to settle and that's exactly what you're doing.

Don't bother doing anything with a guy until you really, really want to. Why sell yourself short when you've waited this long. Just consider it as having really high standards.

**WildChild** · 11-21-2010 05:46 PM

It think it would really weird to not be a virgin but to have not been kissed! First things first ya know?

**ManINeedACoffee** · 11-21-2010 05:54 PM

I agree with the above - you're not settling, and you want someone who's for real. I think that's great, and RARE, these days. It's not too weird to me...I waited until I met a really good guy too, which made me a little bit of a late bloomer...but I don't regret it at all. We are no longer together, but we're still great friends.

What this means to me is that you have a fairly healthy attitude toward relationships - you don't want somebody just to be with somebody, and you don't want to waste your time on someone who isn't worth it. It sounds like you're holding out for a relationship with substance and depth rather than instant gratification. And, quite honestly, I think that's awesome.

A friend of mine didn't have her first kiss until she was 26...she's now married to the guy and they're very happy.

**ItsASecret** · 11-21-2010 06:01 PM

I was 19 when I had my first kiss, and 19 when when I had sex. I am not the type of girl to just throw my body at a random guy because other girls the same age do, no, I wanted to have it from a guy that wanted to kiss me and not be the result of some stupid dare or drunk night. It is not immature or weird to wait out for a guy who treats you as something, and not another number, who wants to give you something even if it is as simple as a kiss.

**Texinator** · 11-21-2010 06:06 PM

I don't think there has to be standard time line. Have your first kiss whenever you're in the right mood with the right guy... even if you have to wait until 40.

**TJPatriot** · 11-21-2010 06:49 PM

I was a virgin until 25. And I regret losing it when I did because it was just with some girl who ended up not caring for me, and I met the right girl just that next month. Wish I had waited so I could say I've only ever slept with her.

**hoops** · 11-21-2010 10:20 PM

Not weird. Things will take the right course for you at the right time. BTW, 18 is still young, at least to me!

**shweedart** · 11-22-2010 04:04 AM

I'd understand why you'd feel weird about it but I bet its a real nice thing to have

but I doubt you'll realise until you've done it just how nice it was to have something all to yourself.

Congratulations

**mommies3** · 11-22-2010 06:31 AM

Not weird at all. I was 14 when i was kissed first and 14 when i lost my virginity and i really wish i could take that back. It is something really special to save yourself for the right person. I think you are being very smart. Congratulations!!!!