Thread: Emotional Weirdness About Orgasm

Masterbation is NOT selfish.
I repeat Masterbation is NOT selfish.

Not if you are not depriving your SO of sexual pleasure.

It can be an excellent way of learning what feels good to you, what an orgasm feels like and can help you to be sexually responsive.

It is very likely that your activity in providing a detached, non participatory, non sharing, means of getting strangers off sexually, (remember that was just a job or a gift) has affected your attitude toward sex and your own pleasure. But since you were pre orgasmic before you started that you don't really have any way of knowing.

Orgasm is good for your health, emotionally and physically. Good sex is vital for a good relationship. Some men don't care if a woman enjoys it or not, they aren't worth your time or energy. A good man wants a balanced relationship, which means he will want you to enjoy sex with him. Truth is, if you don't enjoy it, you won't want to keep doing it, week after week, month after month, year after year. You might think you can do it but at some point you just won't see the point.

This isn't about the men or a man. It's about you. It's about you understanding that you are just as entitled to pleasure, joy and orgasm as anyone else on the planet. We women tend to have a problem with this concept, I know I sometimes do. We are enculturated to it and because we are child bearers and nurturers, it probably has a genetic componet too, but that doesn't mean we should consign ourselves to living in a sexual desert, sexualized but not sexual.

Have you seen the movie, Grown Ups? I love the older woman in that. Married to a much younger man, she is completely comfortable with who she is and her sexuality, she understands that it has nothing to do with age, looks, body image or how anyone else feels about her. That is a lesson all women need to learn. You are entitled to pleasure -all of it you can get. If you don't believe me, see what the men say, being with a woman who is sexually responsive, orgasmic, who loves to pleasure and to experience pleasure, is an epically better experience for most men, than being with one who just goes through the motions to please them.

Bottom line - you are entitled to orgasm. The world will actually be a better place if you do. You will be happier, any man you grace with the opportunity to share in the experience will be happier. The world needs all the happy, orgasmic people we can get! Just plant this in your mind.

Here is an affirmation for you:
I am a wet, juicy Goddess, whose pleasure helps light the world. I will ride an orgasmic wave throughout my life! It is my birthright.