boyfriend likes wearing lingere during sex

**sweetlis** · 11-24-2010 12:47 PM

my bf likes wearing womens panties, bras, and niteys and it freaks me out but i go along with it
he wants me to tie him up too, so i did
anybody else date a guy who likes these things

**WildChild** · 11-24-2010 12:57 PM

Can't say I have but you are early in the relationship and now is the best time to negotiate on this. If it, "freaks you out" but you are willing to indulge him occasionally and don't want this to be an all the time thing you need to let him know now. Tell him how often you are willing to do this and let him know what you want or like.

**rcoreyus** · 11-24-2010 01:15 PM

It isn't that unusual and is harmless (and doesn't mean he's gay), but if he really likes this sort of thin, and you really don't, as WC said, best to understand early in the relationship. One option is that if there are things you would like to ask him to do, here is your chance: He's already admitted to a kink that is embarassing to most men, you can feel OK about asking him for things.

**sweetlis** · 11-24-2010 01:39 PM

good idea on asking
and in a nitey he always goes down on me a BIG PLUS

**sweetlis** · 11-24-2010 02:19 PM

i didn't mention he likes being called

As weird as it all is to me, my orgasms seem deeper and more moving, especially if i slap him.
He like being kept in the nitey in my apt. and cleans my apt for me.

Am i weird for liking this, actually more than like it excites me.

**WildChild** · 11-24-2010 04:34 PM

Maybe you should look into pinaforing or petticoating. It might just suit the two of you.

**Bubba J** · 11-25-2010 08:41 AM

Everyone is different. If he likes it, and you like it, I don't see a problem. I would be very embarassed and intimidated to do anything like this. I do understand the arousal a bit, though. Let me explain.

When I was learning to scuba dive it was always a struggle to slip the wetsuit over my legs and thighs. You want a tight fit, but it's harder to put on. So, my instructor suggested wearing panty hose under the wetsuit. That got a good laugh out of us, but he was serious. So, I asked my wife to buy me a pair of queen sized pantyhose (I'm 6'3" and 240). Well, I was surprised to discover just how arousing it was to wear women's pantyhose. It was weird. With all the mental hangups so many of us have, I thought I was a downright pervert and I would never have suggested to my wife that I actually got turned on by wearing pantyhose. I don't think she'd have liked that either. So I kept it to myself and it never ever went anywhere.

So if you and your guy are able to talk about and accept such things with each other, I think that's a good thing. I think most men have some sort of odd thing that turns them on that the vast majroity of us would never admit to another person. Probably women do too. The fact that you're open enough with each other to get past such hangups is actually pretty healthy, I think.

**baja** · 11-25-2010 06:28 PM

I read your posts a few times and I must say a guy wearing those sorts of things raises flags. It is not my intention to be critical or even further promote the male testosterone-centric stereotype -- if it is working for you both then who am I to argue -- but this sort of fetish smacks of something deep-seeded and I worry it might be the tip of a self-identity iceberg you may not want to see in the future. So enjoy but be careful.

**Texasred** · 11-25-2010 11:16 PM

Originally Posted by baja

...I worry it might be the tip of a self-identity iceberg you may not want to see in the future. So enjoy but be careful.

The very big tip of what might be a very big self-identity iceberg.

**whit4488** · 11-26-2010 07:11 PM

he is more than likely hiding behind some "bi-curious" insecurities... id be letting this guy go before he asks u to put on a "strap-on" and "do" him...