sexual maturing of women question

**jenn89** · 11-29-2010 03:30 PM

Well I havent aged much since I am only in my early 20s . . . but I did find that as I moved into a committed relationship (first steady dating and then engagement) that I got more comnfortable with my sexuality--both with the idea of being sexually intimate and more responsive when having sex. At first (mid-teens) I was really uptight about it. A solid relationship and the experience that has come wit it has helped a lot.

**Texasred** · 11-30-2010 11:33 PM

Originally Posted by CHANDLERS WISH

does that mean we are purely more "comfortable" as we age, which is strange considering our best bodies are in our 20's...

CW, I don't often disagree with you, but here I do!
I don't think that's at all true: I think womens' bodies are NOT always "best" in their 20s, unless you subscribe to the idea that beauty = immature or child-like!
I disagree with you, and I'd be willing to bet I'm not the only man that feels that way. I can't say when an "ideal" age might be, but it's surely over 30, possibly over 40, and I could be convinced it might be over 50!
I'm still investigating, and when I find out for sure, I'll let you know!

Best regards,
- TR

**LilahX** · 12-07-2010 05:43 AM

At the ripe old age of 56 my sex life is without a doubt 1000% better than it was 10, 20 and 30 years ago, and still changing and improving.

I was inexperienced when I married (so was he) but the lack of improvement in that was more from me realising early on that I didn't really love him and therefore my desire to a) have sex and b) change anything about it was non-existent. Once I finally left the marriage and now have a very sexually adventurous 60yo partner and we love exploring our sexuality and the sky is the limit.

I'm one of the lucky ones for whom menopause was a non-event and my libido has survived and thrived and I would never want to go back to the sexual 'me' of 20 years ago. For me, for us, it's definitely still improving.

**Colorado** · 12-07-2010 08:53 PM

Originally Posted by Texasred

CW, I don't often disagree with you, but here I do!
I don't think that's at all true: I think womens' bodies are NOT always "best" in their 20s, unless you subscribe to the idea that beauty = immature or child-like!
I disagree with you, and I'd be willing to bet I'm not the only man that feels that way. I can't say when an "ideal" age might be, but it's surely over 30, possibly over 40, and I could be convinced it might be over 50!
I'm still investigating, and when I find out for sure, I'll let you know!

Best regards,
- TR

Originally Posted by LilahX

At the ripe old age of 56 my sex life is without a doubt 1000% better than it was 10, 20 and 30 years ago, and still changing and improving.

I was inexperienced when I married (so was he) but the lack of improvement in that was more from me realising early on that I didn't really love him and therefore my desire to a) have sex and b) change anything about it was non-existent. Once I finally left the marriage and now have a very sexually adventurous 60yo partner and we love exploring our sexuality and the sky is the limit.

I'm one of the lucky ones for whom menopause was a non-event and my libido has survived and thrived and I would never want to go back to the sexual 'me' of 20 years ago. For me, for us, it's definitely still improving.

BINGO! on both notes above... Funny because when I was younger, I could not imagine being more interested in a more mature woman. Now that I'm where I am today? OMG, I wouldn't have it any other way.... SOOOOOooo much better to me than any younger woman I'd ever been involved with.