sexual maturing of women question

**snapshot** · 11-26-2010 08:11 PM

I have a question for the women: how did you mature sexually as you aged? I married by wife when we were both 20 and it was pretty generic sex in the beginning. We have been married twelve years now, and she is a little more open to different things, but its probably more her trying to keep me happy that it is her feeling adventurous. Obviously all women are different, but what was your progression like from when you were in your early twenties to now when you are in your thirties, fourties, fifties etc? Thanks.

**mommies3** · 11-26-2010 08:23 PM

I am 32 and i am alot more sexual now. I was adventurous when me amd my hubby got married at 17 yrs. old.
I think it just gets better and more intense with age, and you feel so comfortable with your partner that you are willing tp try different things.

**LanaBear** · 11-26-2010 08:30 PM

I'm 33, married my hubby when we were 20 (been together since we were 17) and my sex life is TONS different than it was back then. I'm much much more sexual now, it's more than physical, it's emotional and we connect on a different level now than we did during the hump and grind sessions that were frequent when we first got together. I'm open to A LOT more things than I would have never been willing to do back then. The comfort is a factor and the more willingness to communicate with each other what we like and don't like.

**WildChild** · 11-26-2010 10:54 PM

I've always had a strong sex drive but it has taken a dive occationally when a man has treated me poorly. I'm in my 50s and its still strong. I'm more comfortable with my sexuality now and more aware of and open to a wider range of experiences. Its a lot harder to embarass me now than it would have been when I was younger.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 11-26-2010 11:38 PM

Ditto to the above, does that mean we are purely more "comfortable" as we age, which is strange considering our best bodies are in our 20's, yet here we are, totally free, no inhibitions, some boundries, but comfortable... Guess the young ones have a lot to look forward to WC..

I also believe that it is a matter of belief.

If you are a free spirit, just open to ideas more as you get older, or open to more "letting go" being yourself, then so be it

If your closed, it will always be that case, and sex will always be purely here and there and basic.

**SidneyAlive** · 11-27-2010 12:07 AM

i dunno, sexually speaking i guess i did everything there is to do by the time i was 17, im 23 now and i think the only thing lacking in my life is romance..

**LadySue** · 11-27-2010 01:33 AM

I suppose it depends what mindset the woman has towards sex, for me It just gets better as the years go by. As said in previous posts you tend to relax and be more open to different ideas the older you get. What would have shocked me at 18 is now an "ok lets give it a try hun"

**snapshot** · 11-27-2010 02:49 PM

Thanks, although I was kind of hoping your were going to tell me you were all prudes in bed until you turned 33 and then all of the sudden became sex crazed. LOL. I guess a guy can dream.

**kristalyn_04** · 11-27-2010 02:55 PM

Well, I guess I do have something to look forward to as I get older! LOL

**cashybum** · 11-29-2010 01:43 PM

I'm 24 and my hubby and I have a 2 year old. During those 2 years 10 months.. sex was so not important to me at all and was often painful. However I do feel a very slow increase in my libido. Also after having kids, there is an increased comfort level there. Comfort is such a huge factor. Sex initially is often uncomfortable for me and then may or may not become pleasurable. Forplay is sooooo important and every guy I've ever been with has NEVER put enough emphasis in my pleasure. My husband is slowing getting the point and the better it is for me, the more sex he gets. I'm glad you posted this, because I was also curious and I feel like I have something wonderful to look forward to in my marriage.