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  1. 12-01-2010 12:39 PM #1
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    I'm jealous that my wife can orgasm very quickly (around 5minutes or sometimes less) when watching porn, but when we have sex, that time at least doubles.

    Is this normal or I am not arousing her as much as I should? We have an amazing relationship and we're both extremely happy. We are also very open and she tells me I shouldn't worry, it's just different.

    I want to believe her, but I am just paranoid she might not want to say things that would really hurt, like I just don't arouse her as much as porn or something.

    Usually when we talk about it, I feel fine and then after a week or 2, I get jealous again. I know I should change this and I am working hard to do it, but I am just a little jealous still.

    Any thoughts?
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  2. 12-01-2010 01:25 PM #2
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    How does she explain it to you when you talk about it?

    Sex and masturbation are two different things. Many women have a very difficult time reaching an orgasm at all during sex and they can reach one within less than a minute by themselves (with or without porn). I don't think it's about porn as much as her knowing what to do to reach that point. Perhaps she should show you exactly what she does?

    It may also be partly mental, that porn sets her mind in a certain mood and expects you to be more intimate before sex so she can get there.

    In any case, since porn makes you jealous, have you asked her to quit at least for a while? Does she understand how you feel or claims she needs it? Does she masturbate without it?
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    Why would you want your wife to orgasm after only five minutes of sex? Forgive me, but the longer you hold off, the better it is.

    Orgasm is a perk of sex - not a goal. I think you're overanalyzing this a bit. If you're very open together, and she tells you it's not an issue, then, chances are, it isn't one.
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    Usually when people masturbate they can get off quicker than with another person, and she's using the porn as an additional stimulus. But since it is interfering with your sex life, it is a problem. Would she rather do this than have sex with you? Have you sat her down and tried to talk about it? Tell her how it's making you feel, and maybe she'll be willing to compromise. This isn't your problem or her problem alone, it's something you have to work through as a couple.
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  5. 12-01-2010 01:48 PM #5
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    She masturbates to reach orgasm during sex too.

    After she cums, penetration feels even better for her. So It's not like we would stop having sex once she has an orgasm.
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    So, in essence, she's using the porn and masterbation as foreplay and to enhance her feelings during intercourse.

    Sometimes the ends don't always justify the means.
    There will always be boundries, but making love is so different, than having sex, let's face it. CW
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    Any time a behavior, whether porn, excessive masterbation, what ever, interfers or negatively affects your sex life, you need to do something about it. Communication is always first on the list.
    It sounds like she has some trouble with arousal?
    Does she orgasm from anything that you do with or for her sexually?
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    I'll bet many husbands would love to have a wife like yours. Personally, I'd be very happy if I could cum in just 10 minutes, much less 5, that's for sure. You have a very lucky wife. I think my husband would be happy if I was a porn connoisseur. Actually, I'm pretty sure my husband would be absolutely ecstatic.
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    I cum while watching porn manually by my ex-husband much quicker than without porn. He saw that as a good thing because it would sometimes take a half hour or more without porn. I find myself more visually then mentally aroused, as many men are. Maybe she is this way as well. I don't think it is anything to worry about at all!
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  10. 12-02-2010 05:03 AM #10
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    to the author....... what porn does your wife watch?? i went through a phrase of watching 2 girls and 1 guy and my boyfriend thought it was fabulous news!!
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