Thread: can not have an orgasm at all

Yeah, I would say that your age and length of time being active have little to do with not being able to achieve anything. I still have not, though i have come close to it. It really is a minset thing, aside from it "feeling good". You have to go in thinking that your partner will please you and that you really love them or want to be intimate with them. (I'm just not too keen on the idea of casual sex. Not religious, but I prefer monogamous and healthy relationships). So, again I haven't yet, but I guess I'm still just stressing out, and hoping that something will happen, which is not what you are supposed to do. Also, a close encounter with rape made made me very uneasy with the idea of sex and I was very uncomfortable with my body. I hope you find what you're looking for! Good Luck.

thanx everyone i appreciate it. i will talk to my gyno about possible help.

age is not a problem.

Originally Posted by WildChild

Orgasm can be achieved in a few minutes or instantly, I know, I do it. I don't know where Little Man gets all this but it may be true of some women. I don't think it has to be true for any. Usually it is literally all in your head.
Start with some self education?
How about, The Orgasm Loop?

I wouldn't know if you are having an orgasm or not without witnessing it. And thats not likely ...

I can only go on my own experience from what I know myself.

You may be one of the rare ones that is very confortable with yourself and can easily achieve it.

Like I said without seeing it first hand no way of knowing.


I've been fortunate enought to have experience it 4 times in my life, of those ones that I was on the end of, only ONE was the humdinger that I would imagine most women would love to experience.

And believe me when I say that it was really hard to achieve, we started around 8pm and finished at 6~7AM.

That may sound hard to believe but I can assure you that is a fact.

What most fail to understand is foreplay doesn't consume that much energy, its the penetration that consumes the energy.


This is where most if not all fail to achieve orgasm.

I think for you to say that you can achieve it instantly is maybe making other women feel some what lacking or causing them stress.

I think it really depends on the person, their background and what sexual trauma's they have experienced through partners.

If your young and your reading this do not put up with anything in bed for your partner, all that is doing is damaging your mentally.

Your mental health needs protecting, do not allow your self to be forced into any act that you find degrading or against your will.

If he truelly loves you he would not force you into anything that you didnt want to do.

Sex is a selfish act, its crossing over into the other persons needs and thinking mostly about their needs that makes the difference as to whether your able to achieve it or not.

Most of all try not to stress over it cause its not the end of the world.