Thread: Threesomes!

I'm curious.. have you ever had one? What was it like? How did you set it up? If you haven't, would you?

I'm asking because it's something my boyfriend and I have very casually discussed. We're both turned on by the idea of introducing another guy into our bedroom routine, for my pleasure and his. We're currently not in a place where we'd actually entertain such a thought, but we're both pretty open minded, so I figure it may be something that comes up in the future.

Sooo, I'd really like to hear from some of you that have had personal experience with it.

My ex boy friend was always insisting that we should try this and telling me how much i'd enjoy it, so when i gave in and told him i'd do it he came out with a long list of things that i was to do for him and the guy he brought home, it just turned out that i was to be the entertainment for the two of them, it wasn't about me at all, so i called it off..

I haven't but I've talked to 4 friends that have. 2 liked the experience quite a bit (1 of them had a 3-person relationship for a while,) 2 (including a guy) said it wasn't all it's cracked up to be. They all seemed to agree that an emotional connection was important.

I haven't done it and never will, because there's no room for a third person in my relationship.

You're certainly going about this the right way. You're talking about it rather than just rushing into it. We have had many, many threesomes (and foursomes and moresomes) and under the right circumstances it can be a great asset to your r/ship.

Your man obviously doesn't have any jealousy issues and you both know there is a vast difference between love and lust and that admitting you'd like to 'get physcial' with someone else doesn't mean you have any less love or respect for your partner Bravo.

When yr at the place where you can take this step, sign up on a personals site and begin your search. Do be prepared to be inundated with contact requests as couples seeking guys are very sought after as most couples seek couples or women. YOu'll have plenty to choose from and hopefully will find a great, fun guy to explore the joys of group sex.

Originally Posted by LilahX

You're certainly going about this the right way. You're talking about it rather than just rushing into it. We have had many, many threesomes (and foursomes and moresomes) and under the right circumstances it can be a great asset to your r/ship.

Your man obviously doesn't have any jealousy issues and you both know there is a vast difference between love and lust and that admitting you'd like to 'get physcial' with someone else doesn't mean you have any less love or respect for your partner Bravo.

When yr at the place where you can take this step, sign up on a personals site and begin your search. Do be prepared to be inundated with contact requests as couples seeking guys are very sought after as most couples seek couples or women. YOu'll have plenty to choose from and hopefully will find a great, fun guy to explore the joys of group sex.

Thanks, LilahX. Were your other partners friends of yours or did you prefer to find someone randomly via personal ads? I've always wondered how we'd approach that aspect. Personally, I think it would have to be someone I don't know well, or at all even. The extra person to me would be there for physical pleasure only, no emotional attachment whatsoever, just cut and dry.

Threesomes is a dream for many many men. but i think it is a disaster for many many women.

You'd be amazed how many people who don't think they're the jealous type soon change their minds.

Did it, regretted it, many years ago.