Cant get boyfriend to cum during blowjobs...what am i doing wrong...

**tinycit** · 12-08-2010 07:57 PM

Is it really that important that you make him cum all by yourself? Oh, you probably can, but it may take time and only happen occasionally. It'll probably take an assist from him more often than not. What's important is that you're doing it, you like doing it and it feels good to him when you do it. That's all that matters. Cumming need not be the goal in order for it to be enjoyed. I doubt he'd want you to not do it just because it's not making him cum. Try doing it early in the morning sometime.

**jaydg** · 12-08-2010 10:57 PM

I have to agree with everyone that says to relax and don't stress about it. What makes a blowjob wonderful for me is seeing that my wife is enjoying it. That gets me more excited about it than any other part. One thing though, if she wants to make me cum, versus just getting me prepared for intercourse, she finds a rythym that feels good to me (I help by moaning and telling her it feels so good) and she doesn't change anything until I cum. BTW, sounds like your new boyfriend is a very lucky guy! I'm sure he knows that. Have fun with it.

**Bubba J** · 12-10-2010 10:13 PM

Try focusing stimulation on the underside of the head of his penis where the head and skin meet. That is a huge area of nerve endings. Manually or orally, it is like a "g-spot" for men. Another possibly more controversial thing is anal stimulation. Some men won't want that, but it can bring him to orgasm very quickly if you digitally stimulate his prostate. Many men find that extremely pleasant, but it's not something you'd want to jump into without some exploration first.

**Texasred** · 12-10-2010 10:55 PM

And there's no sign the OP has ever come (pardon the pun) back to this thread.

**clumsygirl** · 12-11-2010 06:01 AM

you are a good woman. no matter the ways, men also can ejaculation. as a woman ,you don't care about whether you ejaculation or not ,you care about your bf ejaculation in every position. you shoule be in china.

**WildChild** · 12-11-2010 07:17 AM

Clumsygirl I agree, both should have pleasure and experience orgasm. But sometimes we can take turns, with the woman bringing the man to orgasm through oral and another time the man can bring the woman to orgasm doing what she enjoys.

**ssimon** · 12-11-2010 10:36 AM

Try this:

I am a guy and can rarely cum without my wife using her hand. She does not "deep throat". The proper motion and tightness is important. Put your hand up against your mouth and go in the same direction you are going with your mouth (do not oppose direction) . Get it very wet with your spit. I like the hand to be a little tight going down but not coming up (don't pull). Make contact with your tougue on the bottom of his penis. That will add to the sensation.

I word on the mood/setting. I think this is not the case with me. I am very turned on if she catches me anywhere doing whatever and just takes over, unbuttons pants and taked control. Unexpected is just as good if not better. Even if I dont have a chance to get hard before she starts it will not be long.

**CandyCloud** · 12-11-2010 11:16 AM

Hi JML!

I know exactly what you’re going through, I’ve been through this myself! When it comes to oral sex (or any kind of sex for that matter), everybody has certain things that make them cum faster. Every man is different, so I can't help you with the oral sex because I don't know what turns him on, but if I were you, I’d talk to your boyfriend more about this subject - ask him what would turn him on more, ask what would help - nobody knows his body like he does.

But as a couple of other posters mentioned, this is really nothing to stress about. Since both you and your guy are happy with what you’re doing, that’s all that matters. Also, you two have known each other for a short time, you’re still learning about each other’s bodies and it will take a while before you can understand the language of each other’s bodies.

**foxman09** · 12-12-2010 03:07 AM

It took me a while to figure out how to cum from blow jobs. Either your bf is just making you work for it or he doesn't know how to speed up the process. I figured out I have to "squeeze" while receiving a bj. Like squeezing penis as if i was trying to stop peeing. I also will flex my body a bit to get it there faster. I don't know why this is but I learned this by fearing I wouldn't get to cum before my gf got too tired haha. Blue balls suck!