Thread: Oral Frustration!

Originally Posted by e.s

I have been with my current boyfriend for about 5 months now and he has never gone down on me, i always make an effort to go down on him and really enjoy it !
we have talked lightly before about previous sexual experiences and he has stated about how he hasnt liked or has been put off by a girl who didnt want to go down on him, and he has even acknowledged that he hasnt gone down on me.
i am aware that his previous girlfriend before me used to put pressure on him for oral sex all the time, maybe this has put him off ?
i dont want to be insensitive but im gettin frustrated!!

Tex may have it nailed. Penis centric men. I've known many of them. I've never cum from oral but still enjoy it. For me it's about balance.

Does he do other things to pleasure you? Does he show you that you count for something more than getting him off? Point out to him that what any other women did or didn't do has Nothing to do with you. If you let him get down that path you will never be accepted for who you are and will spend the relationship in the ex's shadow. That is a cold place to be. Take it from an older woman who has been there several times, you are probably going to have to be insensitive to get this dealt with. Men in general don't get hints, don't get it that you are being "nice" or "sensitive", if you tollerate it, they will generally think its all hunky dory. If you let it ride and try to deal with it later he will be defensive and indignant and think that there must be somthing else because HE wouldn't have put up with it that long without saying anything. (of course some men do but still may not understand that you would).

Increasingly I'm seeing that it isn't that you get what you give. You get what you are willing to accept or put up with.