Trouble with orgasms

**tombraideraj13** · 12-11-2010 04:50 PM

Hi, I feel like I have some kind of issue with having orgasms when I'm with my boyfriend. There will be times when we are fooling around and he will go "down there" and it feels amazing but for some reason I never orgasm. I feel like I should have sometimes. I feel like there is something blocking it. When I masturbate I never have any issues,some times it takes a while, but it always happens.
Ive been with my boyfriend for 6 years and i am completely comfortable around him. I'm not sure what my problem is but it really upsets me

**ItsASecret** · 12-11-2010 05:05 PM

There are a ton of posts and threads on this already, you could gain some insight by using the search function and reading through everything.

**tombraideraj13** · 12-11-2010 05:24 PM

I did read through some of the posts and I didn't find any that I thought answered my question. Sorry if it was wrong to post it anyway.

**jns** · 12-11-2010 05:53 PM

Originally Posted by tombraideraj13

Hi, I feel like I have some kind of issue with having orgasms when I'm with my boyfriend. There will be times when we are fooling around and he will go "down there" and it feels amazing but for some reason I never orgasm. I feel like I should have sometimes. I feel like there is something blocking it. When I masturbate I never have any issues,some times it takes a while, but it always happens.
Ive been with my boyfriend for 6 years and i am completely comfortable around him. I'm not sure what my problem is but it really upsets me

You are probably not as comfortable with your bf as with masturbating. Possibly it is something like wanting to have an orgasm for your bf. Any anxiety can make things take longer or not happen altogether. Try doing things that relax you such as the right music and/or certain scents. then have something to distract you such as a scene from a movie that makes you emotional or amorous. He can also help out by using his hands on your other erogenous areas to help heighten sexual tension.