Thread: orgasm issues

ok, so i have a great, sexy boyfriend who seems to do everything right in sex and foreplay but nonetheless i can't ever seem to orgasm!
After a while i just get frustrated and i start to feel guilty that in all his efforts nothing is happening! sometimes i feel on the verge of an orgasm but then it stops..
the only way i have ever orgasmed is through a vibrator (clit)...
i also find i am not getting wet enough before sex....could it be that my body is simply sexually immature?
please help, my situation is extremely annoying and depressing!

Just let it happen and eventually it will.
For years we as young girls are sometimes *programmed* by our mothers that sex is dirty/naughty etc and just for procreation. You're not supposed to enjoy it type of thing...this is the sort of msgs I got..and still get from my own Mother (not that I talk to her about my sex life now..in fact NEVER!..but she says things about sex sometimes and it's always a negative.

It took me YEARS to come(pardon the pun!) to the conclusion that sex IS enjoyable and that *I* deserve to enjoy it and that now I feel ripped off if I don't orgasm. I can only orgasm when I am on top(never had one any other way and self stimulation never works either,although the 'pleasure is definitely there!) and if all the moons are aligned. That is, so-called 'dirty' talk(it really helps ),my partner sucking on my nipples and then telling me how good I am! Asking me if I am enjoying taking in his hard ****,telling me how wet I am. I have to fight for every orgasm I have because if I lose concentration or the friggin bed is squeaking or the kids are still up and about, it's ruins the mood for me...not often though..but believe me..I was 30 something before I had my first orgasm..I felt ripped off for years and had no idea what all the fuss was about!...but boy it's fantastic!

Originally Posted by LaLa08

Just let it happen and eventually it will.
For years we as young girls are sometimes *programmed* by our mothers that sex is dirty/naughty etc and just for procreation. You're not supposed to enjoy it type of thing...this is the sort of msgs I got..and still get from my own Mother (not that I talk to her about my sex life now..in fact NEVER!..but she says things about sex sometimes and it's always a negative.

It took me YEARS to come(pardon the pun!) to the conclusion that sex IS enjoyable and that *I* deserve to enjoy it and that now I feel ripped off if I don't orgasm. I can only orgasm when I am on top(never had one any other way and self stimulation never works either,although the 'pleasure is definitely there!) and if all the moons are aligned. That is, so-called 'dirty' talk(it really helps ),my partner sucking on my nipples and then telling me how good I am! Asking me if I am enjoying taking in his hard ****,telling me how wet I am. I have to fight for every orgasm I have because if I lose concentration or the friggin bed is squeaking or the kids are still up and about, it's ruins the mood for me...not often though..but believe me..I was 30 something before I had my first orgasm..I felt ripped off for years and had no idea what all the fuss was about!...but boy it's fantastic!

And you have only just begun......Welcome to the land of the Sexually Maturing Woman......You have only just begun......

Woo hoo,let the games begin!

Originally Posted by LaLa08

Woo hoo,let the games begin!

And they have.......I had a Mother who knew nothing about sex and I wondered if I was born of the Immaculate Conception......Now add 12 years of Parochial School and I had to really break free.....But when I did and like you really let it all hang out..........it was wild........and is......and will be because I just plain adore sex....