Porn vs. the real thing

**stressed** · 12-17-2010 12:52 AM

I agree with ItsASecret. If there's a problem with sex and porn habits, more porn won't fix it. He'll only be watching it while she's being used as an object, feeling even worse about the whole thing. If their sex life was normal it could be used as foreplay and not just for him to watch, but for both of them to watch.

I don't know how much fun it is for you to 'assist' your guy while he's watching porn, facing porn instead of you, looking at them instead of what he's doing with you, but it was a turn off for me when I tried it. Plus, he shouldn't even need any "assist" if he manages well by himself. It should be a shared experience.

**WildChild** · 12-17-2010 09:11 AM

I agree with Stressed. Having sex with a man while he is staring at porn turns you into a masterbation tool. There is no feeling of connection with You. If you get turned on having him essentially as a living dildo I guess its ok. I like to keep people as people, not tools.

The "assisting" him while he is watching porn at least gets you in the picture - maybe. It might draw his attention to what the two of you can do together or it might just reinforce you as one more part of what gets him off and you needing nothing.

**Texinator** · 12-17-2010 10:14 AM

Women whose boyfriends or husbands make them compete with porn for attention should remedy the problem engaging in a threesome.

That is, a threesome between her foot, his rear end, and the curb.