Porn vs. the real thing

**btifulfrefly08** · 12-13-2010 12:10 AM

Do you mind if your boyfriend watches porn and jacks off more than he even looks at you naked? Does your boyfriend jack off more than he has sex with you? Does your boyfriend still want to masturate instead of having sex when you dress up for him in a skimpy outfit?

If you've answered yes then you're in the same boat I'm in.

**SidneyAlive** · 12-13-2010 12:22 AM

If he did any of those things i would find it very disrespectful to me, and tell him it was time he got a reality check..

**JuliaBarill** · 12-13-2010 06:24 AM

you really need to ditch this dooshbag girl!

**brianna...** · 12-13-2010 11:13 AM

wow seriously? go found you a new man who will love to touch you instead of masterbating

**budd** · 12-13-2010 01:40 PM

Porn and masturbation for men in relationships is usually based on convenience (she's not in the mood, or want to get it over with quickly without having to please someone else because maybe it's late or he's tired, or no one's home and she's going to be out for a while) or occasionally just for something different.

When this doesn't interfere with the relationship, it is not something to be worried about. But when it becomes a substitute for a willing partner is when it is an issue. It sounds like you need to have a serious discussion about where the relationship is and where it's going.

**Colorado** · 12-13-2010 08:42 PM

Yuppers! I can't do or say anything other than agree with what everyone else here has stated.
But to summerize; if his masterbating is taking the place of a healthy relationship with you - there is a problem.
Communicate this with him and hope he see's the light - if not, and I wouldn't waste much time with it, find someone who is willing to treat you right.

**stressed** · 12-13-2010 10:15 PM

Been there, dealt with it, asked him to make a reality check.

If it goes on you have no reason to accept this, it's abnormal and unhealthy for both of you. And remember, it's his problem, not your fault.

**FrostDominion** · 12-13-2010 10:22 PM

I can't really say anything different than anyone else, but I feel it is my prerogative to tell you to talk to him about it before you drop him like a hot potato. He may have a problem of some sort that he feels he can't talk to you about, and this way you can tell him that it DOES bother you that he would rather get it on with Rosie and her five sisters, than you. Good luck sweety.

**hppacific** · 12-13-2010 11:23 PM

trust me i know how u feel. we used to have this problem in my relationship but eventually if you just talk about and work thru it TOGETHER it will change. but only if your man wants it to change. if not then kick him to the curb ;]

**btifulfrefly08** · 12-13-2010 11:28 PM

We've talked and talked about it. He keeps saying that he's too tired but then he goes to masturbate. One night when we have sex, I'll wait 'til we're done and ask him if that is better than his hand and to answer me truthfully.