Girls I need your help bulding sexual chemisty

**therock1** · 12-15-2010 09:04 PM

Now I really really like my girlfriend, im a bit of a begginer when it comes to sex and shes a lot more advaned then I am.. Weve only had sex a few times, Ive made her cum by going down on her and stuff, but usually I jsut go right for sex instead of slowing down, she says she dosent want to just get " ed " but I dont really know what she means.. i try talking to her but I cant get a good answer, I really like her and want to please her, and tips to what I can do to make sex more enjoyable for her ?

**waya** · 12-15-2010 09:15 PM

Look at the Books on Sex thread if you're willing to read up. Other than that, just go slow and enjoy her whole body. Women generally prefer a softer touch than you would use on yourself. I think what she's trying to tell you is 'don't just come in and bang away.' But that's just a guess as I know a lot of guys do that.

**therock1** · 12-15-2010 09:27 PM

id have no way to find any of those books in my situation.

most of the time i just try to do her doggie and usually her on her back and me standing, its the easiest way for me to get full penetration, I'm guessing I should be doing many other positions, but dont really know which girls perfer..

**WildChild** · 12-15-2010 09:31 PM

Really focus on her. Explore her body, every inch of it. Get over the goal oriented sex idea and be fully present with her and just enjoy exploring and connecting. Ask her to give you feed back, you can ask her, "does this feel good?" Would you like a lighter touch? more firm?" Tell her what you are doing and ask if it is ok. Get to her vulva last and make sure she is really aroused before you ask if you may enter her.

**SidneyAlive** · 12-15-2010 09:33 PM

Try asking her.. Don't just go diving in..

**waya** · 12-15-2010 09:45 PM

Originally Posted by therock1

most of the time i just try to do her doggie and usually her on her back and me standing, its the easiest way for me to get full penetration, I'm guessing I should be doing many other positions, but dont really know which girls perfer..

Preferred positions are very individual. What another woman likes may not apply to her.

**jns** · 12-15-2010 11:14 PM

Originally Posted by therock1

Weve only had sex a few times, Ive made her cum by going down on her and stuff, but usually I jsut go right for sex instead of slowing down, she says she dosent want to just get " ed " but I dont really know what she means..

Did you know that many girls can orgasm multiple times in a row, something most guys cannot do? Why don't you see how many times you can bring her to orgasm before she is good? She should be more than happy to do much of what you want after that.

**therock1** · 12-16-2010 02:36 PM

Originally Posted by jns

Did you know that many girls can orgasm multiple times in a row, something most guys cannot do? Why don't you see how many times you can bring her to orgasm before she is good? She should be more than happy to do much of what you want after that.

How exactly would I do that ? Just go again right after she orgasms ? Or keep going right through ? and Im guessing the best way to do that would be by going down on her and rubbing her clitoris ?

**jns** · 12-16-2010 06:34 PM

Slow down when she orgasms, but don't quit unless she gets way too sensitive. Then build her to orgasm doing the same methods you did the first time, possibly mixing in a new twist if you get a favorable reaction to it from her. If her clitoris sticks out, it may be too sensitive for you to touch. stimulate it through the hood in such a case. Hugging and kissing in between orgasms is fun for both.

**capella050505** · 12-23-2010 10:10 PM

Ask her.. if she doesnt know? try new things.. talking dirty.. being dominant.. being loving.. woman like a MAN, so if that means working out your chest, arms and back.. that will turn her on! Turning on a woman is physical.. look into her eyes and then french kiss her. breath deeply.. Give her a massage and SLOWLY explore more erogenous zones like lower and lower on her back....or massage one side of her neck and kiss the other side.. use the word beautiful not hot or sexy. suck on her nipples, or the inside of her thiegh.