Should I Leave? Advice!

**sarahjane_91** · 12-16-2010 07:40 AM

I am 19 my boyfriend of 11 months is 31, we are having sex once a week, I want more but he is never in the mood, when i want to talk about it with him, he says " is sex all you think about" and I reply if we had more sex I would'nt talk about it so much...
Am I being selfish?
Is once a week normal?? Maybe he has a low sex drive??
I have found porn and we discussed it so its not a problem with me! Guys watch it, We even watched it together but we don't start having sex we just laugh!
I asked if something was wrong with me he replied no! He loves me how I am.
He talks about the future with me so its not that he does'nt want to be committed to me.
we both live with our parents I am with him 6 out of 7 nights a week at his moms house, we wont get our own until we have secure money for one.
I really love him and something needs to be done!
Help please?

**Mr. Inquisitive** · 12-16-2010 07:46 AM

Before leaving you should maybe talk with him more about it, discussing your wants and needs sexually. Maybe try spicing things up. Ask what he likes and doesn't like. If he is not very active and does not eat well these are ll things that can affect a mans libido. Or perhaps you are not compatible sexually. But try and work it out before walking out the door. Although 11 months may seem like a long time it really isn't, you are still learning about each other.

**WildChild** · 12-16-2010 07:52 AM

At 19 he should be much more sexually aware and responsive. At that age he should be good for 5 or 6 times a day! Encourage him to get in and have a check up. He is in the prime age range for testicular cancer although there are many other reasons for low testosterone. This can create all sorts of serious health issues. Unless you want to live a sexless life, you need to have this resolved before you think about moving forward with the relationship.

**sarahjane_91** · 12-16-2010 07:53 AM

Ive tried talking about it but he just gets annoyed, Its not really that important to me but people have said we should be having more sex than just once a week! He works alot and maybe he just needs to maturbate to get a release of stress etc.. he said he prefers the real thing with me but he is just never in the mood, he was off work for a week one time and we did it 3 nights in a row which was great for us, maybe he is just tired? I just cant get my head around him watching porn when he has me! yeah they are just airbrushed skanks on the internet and i understand some guys like to watch it and it doesnt mean anything but i keep going on about it because of the just once a week thing if that makes any sense? should i just live with it and see if things change, i dont want to leave him just over sex and porn it is a poor excuse when everythin else is perfect!

**sarahjane_91** · 12-16-2010 07:57 AM

he is 31 i am 19 i thought it would be the opposite lol

**WildChild** · 12-16-2010 08:03 AM

Originally Posted by sarahjane_91

I just cant get my head around him watching porn when he has me! yeah they are just airbrushed skanks on the internet and i understand some guys like to watch it and it doesnt mean anything but i keep going on about it because of the just once a week thing if that makes any sense? should i just live with it and see if things change, i dont want to leave him just over sex and porn it is a poor excuse when everythin else is perfect!

It is not a poor excuse. Sex or lack of it is a deal breaker for many of us. Things won't change if he sees no reason to change and your tollerance does not provide a reason. His attitude toward you and sex reflects his attitude toward you in general. He gets annoyed when you try to talk to him about it, he doesn't care what you feel about this.
Actions speak louder than words!
Especially with men.
What do his actions tell you?