not long enough

**babette** · 12-16-2010 05:14 PM

I have been with my fella for a year and half now and sex has always been amazing between us. Just laterly he has only been going for a little while and sometimes not enough for me to feel anything. i am trying to spice things up in the bedroom department so we have our long sessions again as he basicly 'cums' and i am left all turned on and aint cummed once and then he just sits there then watches tv wile i am turned on to the fullest.

any suggestions i can try to spice things up.

**jns** · 12-16-2010 08:35 PM

Introduce his hands and his tongue to your clitoris. Do you orgasm from oral or manual stimulation?

**stressed** · 12-17-2010 12:04 AM

1) Have sex more frequently.

2) Ask him to give you more foreplay.

3) Don't expect him to do anything after he has orgasmed, I don't know many men who would continue at all after it.

4) Masturbate after sex or ask for another round later on, where he can use his hands and mouth more.

**Texasred** · 12-18-2010 01:23 AM

Originally Posted by stressed

1) Have sex more frequently.

2) Ask him to give you more foreplay.

3) Don't expect him to do anything after he has orgasmed, I don't know many men who would continue at all after it.

4) Masturbate after sex or ask for another round later on, where he can use his hands and mouth more.

Agree with 1 especially, and with 2, but I'd take issue with No.3
Not all men are inconsiderate boors.

Just from a purely selfish standpoint, I've found that if you see to it that your woman is pleased, she'll be that much more easily lured into the bedroom next time!

**babette** · 12-18-2010 02:00 PM

i dont get it though cuz we have it everyday maybe have one day of some time and he does use his mouth and hands.

I actually spoke to him last night about it as he could tell i was still turned on he asked me i said no but then said well i am bbe i just didnt want to upset u he said what can i do next times to stop that and i said well longer would be nice i asked him why dont he make me cum n that properly anymore he said well he was trying to impress me before but he said if i want to go longer then we will he said so see how things go fingers crossed aye ??

**jns** · 12-18-2010 02:09 PM

Good luck. See if he can go long enough for you to be at least partially satisfied (one or several orgasms) before you satisfy him.

**Texasred** · 12-18-2010 02:18 PM

Originally Posted by babette

i dont get it though cuz we have it everyday maybe have one day of some time and he does use his mouth and hands.

I actually spoke to him last night about it as he could tell i was still turned on he asked me i said no but then said well i am bbe i just didnt want to upset u he said what can i do next times to stop that and i said well longer would be nice i asked him why dont he make me cum n that properly anymore he said well he was trying to impress me before but he said if i want to go longer then we will he said so see how things go fingers crossed aye ??

Well that wasn't as difficult as you thought it would be, was it?
Good for you! Communication is important isn't it?
As long as your partner cares, anyway; and it's apparent that he does!
You can always just suggest that he go back to trying to impress you! ;-)

Best wishes,
- TR