I cum too easily

**Ash2102** · 12-18-2010 05:46 PM

I'm f 23 so's my gf. Before we'd gotten together I'd been quite sexually active, then after a bit of a sticky situation decided to be celibate until the right girl came along 4 months down the track I met my now gf. We've been dating for about a month, the sex keeps getting better and better. The only prob is is that I'm cumming too quickly which hasn't been a problem for me before. While she's up for a sexual marathon I'd love to be but for obvious reasons I'm just not quite there. I'm wondering if this i because I didn't have sex for a while? and if so how do I control it?

**WildChild** · 12-18-2010 05:49 PM

Some of us are just more responsive than others. Sometimes is it just with a particular partner. For myself, if I a feel really connected I can cum just from kissing.
Are you multiorgasmic? Any woman can get there. Just because you came once doesn't mean you can't again and again.
How about focusing more on her at first?

**Ash2102** · 12-18-2010 06:10 PM

Yeah I am multiorgasmic, but it's a bit too intense with her. I try to focus on her but sometimes she just wants to touch me.

**WildChild** · 12-18-2010 06:22 PM

You are still very new in this relationship. The two of you need to stay open and communicate what feels good, what works. I'm sure over time you will find a balance that works for both of you.

**Texasred** · 12-19-2010 07:36 PM

Originally Posted by Ash2102

Yeah I am multiorgasmic, but it's a bit too intense with her. I try to focus on her but sometimes she just wants to touch me.

Well. let her touch you; then when she's had enough of that. or you have, you can focus on touching her and seeing that she is as pleased as you.
It's important to keep in mind that just because you've cum the sex doesn't have to end.

**capella050505** · 12-23-2010 09:59 PM

my boyfriend is like this as well.. having sex everyday did help a little but did not solve the problem.. do you smoke weed? try quitting it to see if that helps... Also.. my boyfriend went on anti depressants and started lasting 30-40 minutes.. which was a HUGE difference.. and he was much harder too.