Thread: My Partner is scaring me

My Partner is usually freaky. He is into bdsm. Two nights ago, he really freaked me out. I am wondering if this relationship is going to work or not. While having sex, he came up with some great idea that we should bring out female dog on the bed while we have sex. And I cannot believe him if he thinks its kinky to let our dog watch while we fool around doggy style.

I was upfront with him about it. Yesterday night was worse, he bought a male dog that day. I was ing to him about having a second dog now. During the night time he let the dog on our bed while we were having sex. He also let the female dog in the room.

I cannot believe how weirded out I am that our dogs are having sex on the same bed we are having sex on at the same time. Some how it turned my husband on.

him in my opinion. Ladies what would you do.

Well I hope he is not planning on having sex with one of them or trying to get you to. That is animal abuse. As far as dogs being in the same room... even on the same bed during a session, thats typical. Him getting a sexual thrill out of being near the dogs -- is creepy. You say he is 'into bdsm'... does he understand it? Or did he just watch a bunch of humiliation/degradation porno and think you should do all those things? If you submit to him, its a gift to be respected... in turn he should respect any bounderies you set. If the dog thing makes you uncomfortable you need to give him a clear and consise NO. It sounds like he is attempting to groom you into something more creepier... that , or he is just being exhibitionist and getting a thrill out of exposing your sex to the pets.

Either way, you don't like it, tell him so where there is no room for interperatation of him thinking its a maybe. If he cannot respect you on that... he can't respect you in other ways. If you have a Dom/Sub relationship -- he should realize your submission is a gift, not a liscense to do whatever he wants whether you like it or not.

what he does totally show that he is a sex creature.

We (society) puts labels on things, and associates a negative or positive connotation with each label. But sometimes, we put things under those labels when they don't belong just to make certain things seem more okay. IF he has interest in any sort of involving animals in sexual activity, this is NOT BDSM. This is beastiality or zoophilia. See definitition:

•Zoophilia, from the Greek ζῷον (zṓion, "animal") and φιλία (philia, "friendship" or "love"), is the practice of sex between humans and animals (bestiality), or a preference or fixation on such practice. A person who practices zoophilia is known as a zoophile

Yes it's illegal, yes it's cruelty to animals, and yes he could be harshly prosecuted if he were to actually involve them in the sexual activity.

We all know that sometimes we wear rose colored glasses in relationships, so if this creeps YOU out and your his girlfriend, then most likely your instinct is telling you right. You need to speak up for yourself ASAP and lay out some boundaries that are and are not acceptable. If you are not comfortable with something, then it's NOT okay. If he's not willing to respect that, it's time you go find someone who will respect you.

The guy is obviously into things that you are not into, and in my opinion, he does not respect you, based on his actions.

Do you really want to be in a relationship where you are not respected?