Thread: Wife is chosing masturbation over me, what to do next?

Wow, never heard of that.

Update 02/07/11 -After a deep discussion of our sex life, apparently the wife tried to dial back her solo sessions of which The offshoot was her pent up desires came out during sleep. This went on for about another month but she has quietly resumed her previous activities so the sleep sex has gone away. At least I'm getting some sleep although she seems to need some release every 3-5 days. She has participated in sex with me slightly more often (twice in 6 weeks, woo hoo!) though her rejection of me after a "date night" was very painful as I took great care to be romantic, dress well, wear fashionable clothes (I've lost 13# during all this) and try to make it like it was when we were first dataing. I've been watching and she has started to use her toy again. She used it when I had to go out of town for work, on her days off, and on a snow day when her school was closed and the day after we had sex. I'm sure there are other times she resorts her hands as I heard her through the door when she slept late a couple weeks ago. It's a terribly depressing realization that she is so devoted to her self-play that I've started therapy. There is another confrontation looming to get her some help but I need to get be mentally well before I can handle that. Will update in future as necessary, thanks for all the advice.