Thread: Lack of interest

My boyfriend and I have been together for just over a year now. In the beginning we had sex almost every day, sometimes twice a day. At first i really enjoyed it and then i started doing it because it made him happy. Now i try and avoid it sometimes. I know it's not him because this has happened to me with all my exes. I completely loose interest. I dont even get aroused and when i do it's when i'm alone. My boyfriend is very "free" and loves being naked and trying new things. He's a quite kinky as well, which I like, sometimes. But most times i feel shy and embarressed. I want to be able to be free with him. I'm scared that if I cant be the sexual partner that he needs that somewhere along the line he is going to leave to find someone else who is. I think that some of this "fear" has to do with my upbringing. But, how do i get over this? What can I do? I want to get excited about sex and not think ugh, im really not in the mood. Most times i lie there and think, ok well if i have to do this i might as well have an orgasm. Thats not right? I love my boyfriend very much, he is amazing. I want to make him happy but also have fun at the same time.