Need Masturbation advice (Orgasm problems)

**FlowerFairy** · 12-24-2010 09:54 PM

I've masturbated since I was very young by humping and used to orgasm. I'd use a stuffed toy or just my hand. However, this no longer works for me.

I've tried just rubbing my clit, but it feels sort of incomplete. And I get very worked up, but never quite orgasm. I like the extra pressure around my vulva that the humping gave. Pressing my vulva while I rub doesn't help. Humping just doesn't stimulate the tip of my clit enough though.

I really need some ideas that might actually work for me. I've read a bit online, and tried a few things, but none of them satisfy me. Anybody have any specific ideas that may help me out here?

I'm in my early 20's. I know it's bad I do this and ask about it, but it feels good and I miss being able to orgasm

Please help lol...

Oh and also, I'd rather not buy any toys if I don't have to, unless anybody really thinks it'd help..

**kristalyn_04** · 12-24-2010 10:37 PM

Experiment with different rhythms and pressure, and try rubbing your g-spot with a finger or two. The only way to find out what works for you is to experiment.

By the way, it is not at all bad that you masturbate. It is a very healthy and natural thing, it's too bad that it is discouraged so much and made to seem like it's "dirty" or "wrong". Good luck.

**FlowerFairy** · 12-24-2010 10:44 PM

Is it normal that I can't feel the stimulation on my clitoris if I rub both my g-spot and clitoris at the same time?

**jns** · 12-24-2010 11:16 PM

Originally Posted by FlowerFairy

I've masturbated since I was very young by humping and used to orgasm. I'd use a stuffed toy or just my hand. However, this no longer works for me.

I've tried just rubbing my clit, but it feels sort of incomplete. And I get very worked up, but never quite orgasm. I like the extra pressure around my vulva that the humping gave. Pressing my vulva while I rub doesn't help. Humping just doesn't stimulate the tip of my clit enough though.

I really need some ideas that might actually work for me. I've read a bit online, and tried a few things, but none of them satisfy me. Anybody have any specific ideas that may help me out here?

I'm in my early 20's. I know it's bad I do this and ask about it, but it feels good and I miss being able to orgasm

Please help lol...

Oh and also, I'd rather not buy any toys if I don't have to, unless anybody really thinks it'd help..

When your young and new at orgasming, the newness sometimes gives that extra excitement that was needed.

Have you tried humping against a post, a leg of a table or the edge of a door while sitting down and leaning back? Or the edge of a table while standing with one leg on the table? Of course you would want to pad such an aid to your satisfaction so it was soft enough. Then use your hand to masturbate your clitoris. In sitting down, edge up to the aid and go up and down a bit while thrusting your pelvic region forward. You should be able to get a controlled amount of pressure on your vulva.

**FlowerFairy** · 12-24-2010 11:24 PM

I have never even thought of that. But it sounds like a lot of fun that might work. Only thing is that it'll be slightly hard finding a suitable private spot. There are no doors I'd be able to use, but I have a desk in my room that has legs on it. The top of it has an overhang of about 5cm to where the legs are, so hopefully that won't get in the way.

Thanks! Still open to other ideas, but this one I will definitly try, and fingers crossed!

**SidneyAlive** · 12-24-2010 11:48 PM

Have you tried a vibrator ??

**waya** · 12-24-2010 11:57 PM

I've not actually tried it quite this way but what about crotchless panties? You could use your non-dominant hand to pull them up to a comfortable pressure and move your hips up and down which should give you nice friction on the labia, all while using the dominant hand to stimulate yourself in other ways.

**FlowerFairy** · 12-25-2010 12:08 AM

I have tried an electric toothbrush. That is nice, but I hate the noise (Don't want to be heard

). Also, it still doesn't quite make me orgasm. It makes me twitch and my leg muscles spasm like crazy, but I think the lack of vulva pressure makes me seem unsatisfied. It's so weird that I need that vulva pressure to feel satisfied. I have tried humping with the toothbrush sitting on my clit, but it is really hard and awkward to hump with it there.

I'll try see if I can get enough pressure with clothes, though it is quite a bit of pressure I like. My labia and the area underneath my labia majoria like the pressure (No idea why I'm so sensitive there). Also, can somebody tell me what that area under the labia majoria is called? I just realised I don't know o_o

I'm getting so into detail, hope I'm not bothering anybody...

**jns** · 12-25-2010 12:21 AM

Originally Posted by FlowerFairy

My labia and the area underneath my labia majoria like the pressure (No idea why I'm so sensitive there). Also, can somebody tell me what that area under the labia majoria is called? I just realised I don't know o_o

Are you talking about the area closer to the anus or the part inside the labia majora?

**FlowerFairy** · 12-25-2010 12:25 AM

The area inside the labia majora

Also, I was just thinking, it seems that what would work for me is some kind of thing that moulded very tight to my vulva and that sat inside the area under my labia majoria, went up around that piece of skin that wraps the clitoris, went around my labia minora a bit and held by clit so it stayed facing away from my body and covered it (and I'd make sure the top of it was in contact with my clit, not the hood). So like, then I could lie on my tummy and hump it hard like I like doing and the whole lot would get direct pressure and stimulation. However, I seriously doubt it's possible to get such a thing, and I dunno how I'd go about making it.