Thread: A question for ladies in or around their twenties...

To be quite honest, you should never start a relationship with lies because it will only lead to bad things down the road.
If she really is into you, she won't care if you have never had sex or if you've banged every girl this side of the Mississippi. Honestly, it's a sweet and endearing thought to some girls, to know that a man has been true to themselves (some of them anyway) and not given it up. Most men today have spread it around like a wild fire though.
and hey, at least you can tell her you don't have anything! (making a joke here lulz.)

But seriously, sit down and talk with her. Tell you you like her a lot and you would like to take the next step but you aren't sure how to go about it, since it's your first time. she'll either sigh and smile or gtfo. If she does the latter, then she wasn't right for you sweety. -hugs- good luck.

no, girls are wild about guys who are virgins, it's a thrill for them. I was a virgin at 26, and a wild woman picked me up just because it was a thrill for her.
I regret it, not then, but later, save yourself for a girls who is also a virgin, it may sound old fashioned, not politically correct, and maybe too late for you, but I've known couples who waited and were both virgins, they didn't tell me about their intimacy, but they had a very strong confidence in their relationship that I never observed in any other relationship, no matter how special.
it's not complicated, there is no substitute for buying a brand new car, or any new thing, how much more special when you and the one you love are new to each other, and no one else. sure for those others, there is a second chance; but baggage is hard to lug around, some are better at it than others, the best plan is to start fresh. everyone likes the smell of a new car (yea classic cars are special too) but for those who like you are feeling guilty for the wrong reasons, my advice is to wait.

Wait! One day you will meet the girl of your dreams and she will respect that you waited soo soo much!! And if she doesn't, then she's not the girl for you!!

I was my husbands first. I totally cherish and love the fact that he cared enough about that first time experience to save it for me. He is not religious, he just didnt want to waste that first unforgettable experience on some random girl.

I'll never forget that night, it was amazing. He was nervous and probably scared but we were too deep in love to let fear and anxiety get in the way. It was an unforgettable night!

When you find the right person you won't worry about performance or anything. Love has a way of taking care of things for you!!

Make this amazing gift you have count for some lucky girl that will cherish it forever. You should be proud. You are probably an awesome guy and it will happen, just be patient! Meanwhile get yourself out there and start talking to some girls, find you one you can get serious with. If she's "the one" you will know and you won't have any fear the night sparks fly!

Originally Posted by Hopeless Dork

I'm in my early 30's, and no... you can't tell a virgin by interacting with them. And you can't tell how good a man is going to be in bed by interacting with them.. In my experiences the guys oozing jerk meathead confidence are generally the worst in bed... they think they know it all, are completely self-focused and fail miserably. Guys that know that all women are different... and take the time to learn the woman they are with, to figure out what SHE likes... are the best lovers...

He seems like the kind of guy who will be paying a lot of attention to the women, given his social awkwardness. If he can get up some confidence, he'll be a great lover.

Dude, don't post a CL ad. Just date. Create a profile on eharmony or match.com and talk to the women there online. That way you'll be familiar with them when you actually meet, so you'll be a lot more comfortable. Don't look for sex. Look for a relationship and let the sex come naturally. That's my advice based on the knowledge that you, like me, are not one for casual sex encounters. You're not comfortable having sex JUST to get it done with, because that's not what really matters to you. That's just a stupid social stereotype that men need to lose their virginity at some absurdly young age like 14 (no offense meant to anyone).

Don't let that stuff get to you, bro. Just talk to women. I used to have a hard time with it. I'd clam up and get sweaty lol. It was terrible! I lost my virginity at 25 to a woman who asked me out in class at college. But I wish I'd waited for my fiance, whom I met on eharmony. Good luck to ya! You can go the CL route if you really just don't want to be a virgin anymore, but I'm certain you'll some day regret it.

At some point in the relationship, you'd probably wanna tell her you're a virgin. She'll assume you're just waiting for the right woman. Let her assume that; she'll respect you for it.