Thread: Porn, a blessing or a curse in relationships?

Porn has been positive and negative to my relationship. I have been married to the same beautiful woman for 12 years and we are both 33. We were pretty young and mostly inexperienced at satisfying a mate. I am much more sexually adventorous than her but she will try some things she feels comfortable with. The positives of porn from relationship aspect is the multitude of sexual information on display.

There are many different genres of porn and some are truly eye-opening about the female anatomy. I gained countless knowledge from "good" porn. We sometimes (once a month) watch erotic movies for entertainment which usually leads to some passionate love-making. We both learned some of the initial tactics for oral pleasure from watching good porn. We both learned about vibrators/dildos from watching good porn. We both learned about role-playing and its excitement from watching porn. We both learned about how talking dirty could actually enhance our love-making from watching porn. All of these example have enhanced our sexual relationship. I personally learned about anal stimulation during intercourse from porn. I have no desire to ever actually practice full blown anal but she does orgasm harder with a little anal stimulation during intercourse. All of these are examples we learned through watching porn. We could have gotten these ideas from books or instructional videos but they seem to be a bit.....well instructional!

There are some negatives though. She is not thrilled about my personal masterbation/porn use. She doesn't understand why/how masterbation/porn is pleasing to me physically. We had a few discussions earlier in our marriage but we don't see the pleasure in this the same way. She has never masterbated (at least she won't admit it). It is nothing we argue over she just doesn't quite get the reason why I would masterbate to porn ever. I keep it discrete and she has never asked me to stop and she doesn't have any self-esteem issues. Another negative for me personally is that I enjoy watching porn from many different genres (Fat girls, Blacks, Latinas, orgies, hairy). I say this is a negative b/c she feels like I want all of these types of images in my real life. She only enjoys mutual porn watching with females that are similar to her in race/build. She doesn't like the fact that I could get sexually excited from seeing the manuerism and the body types of woman I have never been with. So all in all, in my opinion, porn has had negative and positive effects on my relationship.