Okay, ONE hurdle down.

**FrostDominion** · 12-31-2010 12:04 AM

I am proud to announce to all of you who helped me, I have moved passed the first hurdle in my sex life.
I can now masturbate successfully. (With LOTS of time and effort, and LOTS of stimulation though. It's like a chore, but I've mastered it!)

However, I still need help with the sex hurdle. You know, the one where sex ='s "uhg."
I've brought myself to orgasm via myself after some my most recent partner gave me very pleasurable oral (because I couldn't orgasm as much as i was enjoying it) and we went in for the kill a few minutes after I came down. While it was very nice, and he knew how to handle his thang, I still could not orgasm with sex.

Do we have any other suggestions?
(And before you ask, YES he did have a moderately sized package that was very attractive to me. -nods )

**jns** · 12-31-2010 12:34 AM

Congratulations on having a method to orgasm. To make climaxing easier, you will have to find the right mix of relaxing and tightening of your muscles as well as what builds sexual tension for you.

**WildChild** · 12-31-2010 08:25 AM

Thats Great!!!
Now can you get so that you can orgasm easily through self pleasuring or your with your lover's manual or oral assistance?

**Beautiful Disaster** · 12-31-2010 09:31 AM

That first hurdle is the only hurdle really. You've found a way to bring yourself to orgasm, so you know you CAN..(which is what most girls struggle with). Now, gradually you will work with your partner to figure out just the right positions, spots, etc. Here's the deal with me, if I were to just lay there and let the guy do his thing, I wouldn't climax. I have learned what I need in order to make that happen. For me, I can orgasm in other positions SOMETIMES, but my one sure fire climax position is with me on top. It's the perfect gspot spot.

Good luck girl. Be SUPER relieved, cause it's all cake from here compared to your first hurdle.

**FrostDominion** · 01-01-2011 12:29 AM

Originally Posted by WildChild

Thats Great!!!
Now can you get so that you can orgasm easily through self pleasuring or your with your lover's manual or oral assistance?

That's the thing, I don't know. -_- He's in another state so as of right now we are on a limited contact basis. (And I don't mean the next state over. He's 752 miles away lulz)

**FrostDominion** · 01-01-2011 12:30 AM

Originally Posted by Beautiful Disaster

That first hurdle is the only hurdle really. You've found a way to bring yourself to orgasm, so you know you CAN..(which is what most girls struggle with). Now, gradually you will work with your partner to figure out just the right positions, spots, etc. Here's the deal with me, if I were to just lay there and let the guy do his thing, I wouldn't climax. I have learned what I need in order to make that happen. For me, I can orgasm in other positions SOMETIMES, but my one sure fire climax position is with me on top. It's the perfect gspot spot.

Good luck girl. Be SUPER relieved, cause it's all cake from here compared to your first hurdle.

I have tried cowgirl and have found it works my gspot, but I just can't seem t let go enough to orgasm. . .

**FrostDominion** · 01-01-2011 12:30 AM

Originally Posted by jns

Congratulations on having a method to orgasm. To make climaxing easier, you will have to find the right mix of relaxing and tightening of your muscles as well as what builds sexual tension for you.

Yup, that's what I do now with the manual stimulation.

Thank you for the advice!

**waya** · 01-01-2011 12:59 PM

That is great! I'm so proud for you

It can take a while to learn how but just keep practicing and it'll get easier. Maybe you can talk to your boyfriend on the phone while you do it next time.

**FrostDominion** · 01-03-2011 03:09 PM

Originally Posted by waya

That is great! I'm so proud for you

It can take a while to learn how but just keep practicing and it'll get easier. Maybe you can talk to your boyfriend on the phone while you do it next time.

That is how we do it right now. We have our special nights on the phone or the computer. It's nice.