Thread: Painful foreplay

If he's doing something you have expressly told him you aren't enjoying he is totally insensitive and selfish. He thinks he's got a technique which will make hm out to be a great lover. Perhaps tell him that a great lover is one who listens to his lady and is willing to learn rather than subjecting her to something which he obviously isn't doing right.

I agree with HD in that, because one may experience pleasure from, while another may not.

I also agree, that when something is not.. You need to put a stop to it. I have had to stop
my husband from something similar. It is a difficult subject to approach. You do not wish to hurt
their feelings, but you feel hurt from the particular act they wish to perform on you. You need to find a way to communicate this to him. Before it causes any injury or infection.
For me, it took a visit to the Doc.'s office as i had a nasty UTI, from such foreplay. He talks about it from time to time, but I am adamant.. (NO).

We men are idiots when it comes to these things. You will have to convince him he doesn't know what he is doing without hurting his feelings. If you haven't yet, I would suggest getting him to watch you closely as you bring yourself to orgasm. Show him just how to touch, and where. Explain that all women are different. See if you can get him to do the same. Try asking him to guide you as you do anything he desires, you may learn something too. You may not not be a g-spot girl, but if you are, find it yourself, then show him. Just a thought from an old guy married many years to the same wonderful lady who showed me years ago. I have gotten so turned on talking about this, we're gonna have fun when she walks in the door!