Advice on Anal =(

AK · 12-31-2010 11:10 AM

Alright! im going to stay over night with the guy i love..i lost my virginity to him so theres no point in elaborating how much i value him..
the thing is..this time he wants to try anal..i mean..for the first time..hes a virgin in that context too..
he says he doesnot want any part of mine unexplored..yet m scared..
My question is,
Would i bleed??
Would it hurt??
what kind of precautions should we take??
Im scared to try this...any suggestions???

**WildChild** · 12-31-2010 11:17 AM

If it's bleeds you are doing it totally wrong!!! There is no hymen to break.
If it hurts you are doing it wrong too. There may be some discomfort at the first entry but that should be all. DO a site search, I and others, have written extensively on this. I have to go shovel snow or I would write it again.
Why don't you limit yourselves this time to lube and fingers? For both of you? Work into it gradually.

AK · 12-31-2010 11:40 AM

ummm sorry if I sounded like an idiot...=(..but i had just bookish knowledge about such things..and what about lube?? i mean what to use for it?? in another post i read about vaseline..is it safe??

**LanaBear** · 12-31-2010 11:44 AM

Astroglide is my recommendation.

And no, I wouldn't use vaseline. And like WC stated, start slowly and work into it, you don't need to go full throttle penis in butt action right off the bat. Get used to the feeling and sensations first.

**Seeker_Advice** · 12-31-2010 12:22 PM

I agree with both WC and LanaBear.

A) Do a search on the subject or even an advance search in this site. It's been asked about and written about extesively in the short time I've been here.

B) Astroglide is a good water based lube and one I use frequently.

I am no anal sex expert, not by a long shot, butt I do know to take it real s - l - o - w and use LOTS of lube..Apply some lube, explore and play, apply some more lube, explore and play, apply some more lube. Unlike your other intimate areas, your butt does not create lubricant so you must do it for you....and do it a lot.

Enjoy! I get a lot of pleasure out of playing with my SO's butt. It's a beautiful thing. Her butt and my/our joy !!

**Beautiful Disaster** · 12-31-2010 02:07 PM

In my experience, no matter how slow we went, how much lube we had, it was still uncomfortable and at times painful for me, especially in the beginning. This is not to say it cannot be done and enjoyed because it most certainly can, but don't be surprised if it is way more uncomfortable than you expect. You should ONLY be trying this if it's something YOU want to try also. Never do anything that requires your body if it's not something you want to do. If you do indeed want to, you're going to need to find a position that is comfortable for you so that you can relax your entire body. If you're tense in any way it will be almost impossible to do. Once he's in it can feel very strange like you want to push it out.....because well...that's what we typically do when things are in that hole.

I have never been able to take a guy fully in me during anal. Usually not much past the head. But he still seemed to enjoy it quite a lot.

The after effects for me, I did not enjoy. Usually the day of and even the day after, I'm sore down there and feel like I need to go #2 frequently and when I do it's runny (which is NOT typical for me). Just a warning if this happens...you're most likely not dying.

And I do have to wonder, if your guy had to experience all that like you will, would he still want to try it?

**Texinator** · 12-31-2010 02:24 PM

Have him go ssslllooowww. It's an extremely sensitive part of your body and not a cannon barrel for him to ramrod.

**Beautiful Disaster** · 12-31-2010 02:44 PM

not a cannon barrel for him to ramrod.

You have such a way with words Tex. LOL. But oh so true. I still think that if a guy wants to try anal, he should REALLY want to try anal...that means giving AND receiving. :0)

Enna good luck to you tonight!!!!

**Texinator** · 12-31-2010 02:48 PM

Originally Posted by Beautiful Disaster

I still think that if a guy wants to try anal, he should REALLY want to try anal...that means giving AND receiving. :0)

Unfortunately for the women who are interested in "returning the favor," there is no shortage of men who will dismiss this as "gay."

**Beautiful Disaster** · 12-31-2010 03:12 PM

there is no shortage of men who will dismiss this as "gay."

Yep...but how convenient for the guy though right? haha. Of course it's because it might be "gay", NOT because it's painful, awkward, and causes you to have gas and runny poo for 48 hours.

hehe