Problems achieving penetration

**Saint John Perse** · 01-03-2011 09:58 PM

Hello, I’m 25 and I have problems when I try to penetrate woman. With some girls it works fine but with the most of them it is really difficult. They usually have to guide me with their hands in order to obtain a proper penetration. My penis is not small. I don’t know if there is something wrong with me. Probably I simply don’t know how to place my penis or how to move it. I will appreciate any advice regarding this issue. Thank you.

**SidneyAlive** · 01-03-2011 10:18 PM

Well how much experience do you have ?? Ya can't just poke around down there and expect it to just go in..

**SidneyAlive** · 01-03-2011 11:03 PM

Well maybe you can if you're having sex wih the "holland tunnel" Haha..

**Little** · 01-03-2011 11:19 PM

To be honest, I've had to do this with just about every man I've been with ... most of them were very good and skillful partners!
Is it possible that every woman's "Holland tunnel" needs to be approached differently? Seems that as relationships have progressed, I've needed to "help out" less and less.

**SidneyAlive** · 01-03-2011 11:28 PM

i dunno if it has to be approached differently, i've always " helped out" it's the easiest way to achieve the end goal..

**jns** · 01-03-2011 11:49 PM

Originally Posted by Saint John Perse

Hello, I’m 25 and I have problems when I try to penetrate woman. With some girls it works fine but with the most of them it is really difficult. They usually have to guide me with their hands in order to obtain a proper penetration. My penis is not small. I don’t know if there is something wrong with me. Probably I simply don’t know how to place my penis or how to move it. I will appreciate any advice regarding this issue. Thank you.

Originally Posted by Little

To be honest, I've had to do this with just about every man I've been with ... most of them were very good and skillful partners!
Is it possible that every woman's "Holland tunnel" needs to be approached differently? Seems that as relationships have progressed, I've needed to "help out" less and less.

Welcome, Little.

A lot of it depends on what position you are using as well as familiarity. Doggy style, with a woman's vagina relatively exposed, is usually easy to figure out while missionary position may be much harder. If you have a lot of girth, it may take some work even after a lot of foreplay to get things to fit. You may have to use extra lube and even not go for full penetration if it is painful. In that case it could be over a week of trying before full penetration is achieved. Some women are probably too tight even for that.

**Jim60** · 01-04-2011 06:41 AM

Not unusual to need a bit of help sometimes - we've been married 15 yrs and she still sometimes "gives me a hand", all part of the fun.

That said, the more aroused she is the easier it will be. We've never needed lube so far.

Some women open up more than others, but this is part of arousal, it's not just about her getting wet. It takes a little time, but theres no need to be in a hurry when you're enjoying yourself.

My technique, learned from what she does, is to place the head on or between her lips, jiggle it around a little to open her lips if needed and also to get a little of her juice on me, and it will then slide in deliciously! The only slight variation is in doggie - her lips never open so wide I can see the entrance so I slide it forward between her legs and rub it gently forward and back over her clit. I go back a bit farther each time until it slips in. Sometimes I go a little far and end up on her perineum, so just repeat the process until it is in. She is small relative to me and we never have a problem.

But jusk for help if your not finding it - she'd rather that than have you poking around without success.

Making sure she is properly aroused is the most important thing.

**jenn89** · 01-04-2011 11:30 AM

You're probably normal. I often guide my fiance in with y hands. It's not at all unusual for a woman to know her own anatomy better than her man does.

It might help though to make sure she is excited and wanting for you to penetrate her before you try. That way she will be pouty and wet, so the opening of the vagina will be easier to find and the wetness will make entry easy.

**janieboo** · 01-04-2011 11:53 AM

You'll always have to help with penetration. It's not like in the movies, it's a little more complicated then that. I've never had a partner where it just "slipped in" without any assistance. If I may recommend that you use personal lubricant, don't put it on your penis, put in on her vagina lips so that when you rub them, your penis head will "slip" in easier. You still may need to guide it in but if the vagina is wet then there will be less friction and it will go in easily.

**cathygirl** · 01-04-2011 07:23 PM

I have always guided my husband. Depending on position, it's either essential or just something I like to do. For example, when I'm on all fours it's not an issue of need. He's on his knees, or standing next to the bed, and he can perfectly well guide things himself. But if it's missionary and he's balancing himself on his knees and hands, trying to balance as a "three legged stool" to free up a hand to guide, well, that's just awkward. I've been mispoked enough times to know that I need to offer a little help.