sexiest thing a man can do?

**vancityguy** · 01-06-2011 06:53 PM

my girlfriend and i have this ridiculous sex life...i mean sex 3times a day and i love giving her oral cuase i can get her off 99.9999% of the time in about 5 minutes before we go at it! i have gotten vibrators, handcuffs,blindfold, straps that tie her up from under my bed, oils, lubricants...all the toys!!! BUT....as great as the sex is i hate...i repeat HATE...sticking to a routine just cause they work, i need new ideas to keep it interesting... so ladies...what are some of your biggest turn ons in the bedroom....physically, visually emotionally etc...???

**WildChild** · 01-06-2011 07:23 PM

Going to have to give this some thought as to how to express it. I can tell you that it has nothing to do with adding more stuff, it's in how you show her that you care, and show her loving attention.

**SidneyAlive** · 01-06-2011 07:36 PM

Well variety is the spice of life, however i would urge caution with your handcuffs,blindfolds tying her up and the like, pleasure can turn to pain in an instant..

**SSDS** · 01-06-2011 07:53 PM

I agree with WC. I think different ways to show her how much you like her, love her, etc...Make her dinner. Set up a date night with activities (outside and inside) the bedroom. Give her a card and flowers for no reason telling her how you feel. Go for a walk. Simple and kind efforts go a very long way

**SidneyAlive** · 01-06-2011 08:15 PM

Being sexy doesn't always happen in the bedroom..

Sexy = Comfort and confidence in a man and knowing he's there for you..

**thandytheambassador** · 01-06-2011 08:21 PM

just be romantic and switch up your moves and make it interesting

**vancityguy** · 01-06-2011 09:10 PM

i assure you, if i give more flowers she will live in a jungle, taking her for dinner happens nearly twice a week and as for the handcuffs turning into pain..were great at communicating...things will only go as far as one wants..hmmm all valid opinions but I'm looking for strictly bedroom advice at this point , everything else is A-ok!

**WildChild** · 01-06-2011 09:17 PM

When you've been here awhile, you'll know I've usually got a book for everything. Right now I've got two for you. One Hour Orgasm, this is the Venus Butterfly technique and The Art of Sexual Ecstacy, which is Skywalking Tantra. I would start with sensory awakening. This heightens the responses and awareness.
Much of what you will find in these involves one of you being the receiver and the other the giver. It is very sensuous.

**waya** · 01-06-2011 11:31 PM

You probably already do this but my biggest turn-on is feeling like my man reeeeeally wants me. So for me it's someting like pushing me up against the wall and kissing me like crazy as soon as he walks in the door because he can't wait to get to the bedroom before being inside me

**Hopeless Dork** · 01-07-2011 12:37 AM

The sexiest thing a man can do has nothing to do with vibrators , handcuffs or his penis... it has to do with so much of what was listed above... making me feel wanted, special, like i'm the hottest thing he's ever touched... thats the sexiest thing a man can do to me.