Thread: I can't believe this happened again!?!

Did you only attempt sex once? Or did you only have sex once? I'm as confused as WC as to whether or not your problem is that he is small or that he has ED... and if you guys only tried once... it could have just been nerves perhaps?

As for size is it really all that small? Or do you have some kind of notion that penises should be bigger than they actually are? Bigger penis doesn't automatically equal better sex... I strongly suggest practicing kegal excersizes if you are encountering a lack of sensation, it will help you and him to have a better experience... also there are positions that will allow for deeper penetration...

If you get your ideas on what the avg penis size is from the internet it will be warped... both men and women alike often over exxagerate for whatever reason, misinformation or ego who knows but seeing as how most women can have a sexually satisfying experience with a finger (maybe even two for some women) the lower end of average and even smaller would still exceed that sensation.

Does he touch you and try to please you in other ways? Have you guys tried again since the condom issue incident? He's 29, if he's otherwisse healthy , its likely just nerves... then there is also the possiblity of excessive masturbation, which can cause problems when a guy doesn't cool down on himself a little when in a relationship. Is he on any meds? Anything like that?

How small is he? Is he like 2 inches erect or something? Their are some conditions/deformities that can produce incredibly small penis's that are probably really hard to derive any pleasure from. Otherwise though, if you man knows how to use it right, assuming he can get it up, things really shouldn't be that bad.

If he does have an incredibly small penis you're going to have to find other ways to let him pleasure you, and if you really get off on vaginal orgasms (penetration) exclusively you may have to consider breaking things off. It's really all about how flexible you're willing to be, if you're willing to accomodate his small size by allowing him to please you in other ways I'm sure you can work it out. Otherwise you may be just better of finding another partner before you guys get even more attached and feelings get hurt.

One of my previous boyfriends had a pretty small penis by most girls standards (4 inches) and he was able to get me off just fine. He really knew what he was doing and was a master of foreplay. The most important thing your man can be equipped with in the bedroom(assuming his penis isn't incredibly tiny), at least in my opinion, is confidence, which is what I'm finding out the hard way right now. : (

Not sure if you've happened to read my thread("Boyfriend lost his confidence..."), but believe it or not my boyfriend now (never actually measured him, but I'd have to estimate around at least 7 inches) is actually failing to satisfy me in the bedroom due to self confidence issues. This is something that actually never happened at all with my partner who was only around 4 inches erect. (Same thickness)

Just re-read this again, and I also think we need much more information on the situation.

You said that when you first had sex with him that he was small, and then later you said you only had sex once right?

So I'm going to assume you've only had sex once. With that being said

How was the sex? From your post I'm going to assume you were disappointed, but how disappointed? What made the sex bad?

Was it over too quickly? (Premature Ejaculation, maybe just performance anxiety)
Did he have problems getting an erection beforehand or lost his erection during sex and couldn't get it back?(ED)
Was he inside you for a while but just couldn't trigger any sensation? (Really Small Penis and/or Wrong Position/Technique)
Were you left completely unsatisfied or was he close and just felt short a little bit? (Close to an Orgasm? / Not Close?)

You also mention issues with the condom, what where they?

I believe it's a combination of both. I mean he can have an erection however once inside me it goes down and i can't feel him inside me. ALso am thinking that he's a shorter heaver guy with a beer belly type and so maybe it doesn't feel as big inside me.

I would say his size fully erect would be maybe 4 1/2 or 5 in. I guess maybe I am just used to a 6 1/2. I amthinking maybe it could be his weight too. He is 5' 2" and weighs maybe 150 or maybe less maybe more...It was over too quickly as in after the foreplay he put on the condom and went inside me and then he got soft. Which caused the condom to losen up and almost come off which is why we ended it. I also wonder if that fact that he drank to 24oz before we tried so maybe the alchohol had something to do with it? I am thinking maybe next time i should get on top of him. It was'nt bad by any means the part that felt bad was that i couldn't feel him inside me...

Yes we only attempted sex once...He can get hard just the fact that when he gets hard he stiffins up and gets hard width wise just not length wise....I guess that is what i am trying to say..

Hmmm he has tried to please me other ways as in fingers mouth etc....But it doesn't feel as good as wanting him in me. I mean those ways feel good but i just like to feel him in me while he's kissing and touch me etc...u know...I'd hate to break it off cause of that. I'd feel really shallow....:-(

I believe it's a combination of both factors.