First time sex = disaster please help

**redrose32086** · 01-15-2011 05:14 PM

I recently decided to have sex w/ my boyfriend for the first time and it was a disaster. He is big down there and its my first time so im tight. It hurt so bad when he went in me i tried to suck it up and try it but i had to push him off mebecause i couldn't take the pain anymore. I was wet down there so we didn't have to use lube but im scared that im not going to be able to do this again because of the experience it was bad. Can you guys give me some advice what I can do to lessen the pain? Please help.

**jns** · 01-15-2011 05:43 PM

Originally Posted by redrose32086

I recently decided to have sex w/ my boyfriend for the first time and it was a disaster. He is big down there and its my first time so im tight. It hurt so bad when he went in me i tried to suck it up and try it but i had to push him off mebecause i couldn't take the pain anymore. I was wet down there so we didn't have to use lube but im scared that im not going to be able to do this again because of the experience it was bad. Can you guys give me some advice what I can do to lessen the pain? Please help.

In this case it may be best to use store bought lube as it may be somewhat slipperier than natural lube.

Your bf really needs to slow down. If he is in too much of a hurry, he could have his orgasm by other means and then get back to working on sex with you.

He needs to only put in what you are comfortable with. That may mean initially only a finger or two, but later only the tip of his penis. Then later, maybe only the first inch or two. Finally, after your vagina has got used to the stretching, he will be able to go fully in. This sequence should be done over days or even weeks.

You should have at least one orgasm before trying the stretching as it causes changes in the vagina that make it easier for it to accommodate a penis. Multiple orgasms are even better.