Playing with my anus

**Seeker_Advice** · 01-19-2011 11:06 AM

Dan,

There are two ways to stimulate the prostate, 1) directly by accessing it inside the anus/rectum and 2) indirectly by massaging the perineum or that area of skin between the base of the scrotum and the anus. The spot to massage should be about half way between the two.

**Dan321132** · 01-19-2011 06:53 PM

Thanks again for the helpful comments and advice. Also for helping the slightly more simple people (jim) to understand what has really been said. I think we may have uncovered a gay in the cupboard. Unfortunately jim, I love my girlfriend men just aren't my type.

**cathygirl** · 01-20-2011 07:03 PM

I do things with my husband VERY OCCASIONALLY that I would not exactly initiate, but I know he likes it. Anal sex is an example. We both enjoy digital stimulation, but full anal sex is not something I really like. So we don't do that very often, but every once in a while I will let him do that purely because I know he finds it to be a real treat. Maybe three or four times a year at most. I don't think there's anything wrong with doing something that isn't your favorite thing, as long as it is not coerced. He does things for me that I think are only because he knows I like it. That's what a relationship is. I can't think of very many things that I'd say "absolutely not, never never never" to. But a steady diet of such things would not be good.

**rcoreyus** · 01-21-2011 08:49 AM

A couple of thoughts:

A lot of men enjoy anal and prostate stimulation - so its not all that unusual

Prostate stimulation will cause a lot of men to ejaculate, whether or not they enjoy it. Men who are raped by other men will sometimes ejaculate even if they hated the experience. So - ejaculating doesn't mean you enjoyed it.

This type of game is popular in some BDSM type relationships - the woman gets to "force" the man to orgasm. All good fun IF both enjoy this type of play.

If you really don't like it, then you should not do it. On the other hand, if you don't mind, then I always think that a couple's sex life is better if each tries to go out of their way to do what the other wants. Is she willing to do things that you want (but she may not particularly enjoy) in bed?

Last note - if you are a man doing something with a woman - it isn't gay.

Even later note - if it was gay, that would be OK too.

**WildChild** · 01-21-2011 08:55 AM

Originally Posted by rcoreyus

Last note - if you are a man doing something with a woman - it isn't gay.

Even later note - if it was gay, that would be OK too.

Statistically straight couples have more than twice as much anal sex as gay men do. Gay men are far more likely to engage in oral sex. For some inexplicable reason straight men don't seem to have any concerns about oral sex being "gay" behavior, or not "manly"

**rcoreyus** · 01-21-2011 09:13 AM

If a man in anally penetrated in a straight relationship, it is often with a dildo - which looks like a penis. The image of a man having sex with another penis seems gay to some people. (to me it is no more gay than anal sex with a woman).

Personally I just don't see why it needs to be labeled in any case. Anything a couple wants to do is fine.

Originally Posted by WildChild

Statistically straight couples have more than twice as much anal sex as gay men do. Gay men are far more likely to engage in oral sex. For some inexplicable reason straight men don't seem to have any concerns about oral sex being "gay" behavior, or not "manly"