Women, would you be ok with this type of sexual relationship?

**uber** · 01-18-2011 11:52 PM

I've been wondering this question and wanted to ask a woman's forum on their opinion.

I am currently single and am heavily involved in working out/training in trying to become a semi pro or pro athlete. Personally I feel that when I ejaculate I lose some of my motivation and drive and I know for example certain boxers feel the same way. I've heard some don't have sex for 3 months before a bout. For example I become a mad man and can train several times a day and a lot more intense if I do this (I've gone a month without sex/masturbation before and I noticed an improvement). I am very hungry to be successful so knowing that this gives me an advantage I feel it is important to do.

I've heard both sides and know men that feel that sex actually helps their training/work outs by giving them a confidence boost but I'm not like that, I'm more motivated and hungry to succeed (more aggressive) if I go without it, I think it's a sort of chemical reaction within me.

Here's my problem... if I get a girlfriend in the future will she be okay with me just stimulating her orally or having sex but without me ejaculating? So I still would like to be intimate often (every day, few times a week) but without the finish for me.

I actually think there might be a benefit for the female in this type of relationship because I would be extremely sexually charged from abstaining and even the slightest kiss/sexual action would become magnified and more sensual, therefor making me more passionate.

Women, pretend I was a nice guy that you were dating and I presented you my story, what would you think?

**jns** · 01-19-2011 12:04 AM

Originally Posted by uber

I've been wondering this question and wanted to ask a woman's forum on their opinion.

I am currently single and am heavily involved in working out/training in trying to become a semi pro or pro athlete. Personally I feel that when I ejaculate I lose some of my motivation and drive and I know for example certain boxers feel the same way. I've heard some don't have sex for 3 months before a bout. For example I become a mad man and can train several times a day and a lot more intense if I do this (I've gone a month without sex/masturbation before and I noticed an improvement). I am very hungry to be successful so knowing that this gives me an advantage I feel it is important to do.

I've heard both sides and know men that feel that sex actually helps their training/work outs by giving them a confidence boost but I'm not like that, I'm more motivated and hungry to succeed (more aggressive) if I go without it, I think it's a sort of chemical reaction within me.

Here's my problem... if I get a girlfriend in the future will she be okay with me just stimulating her orally or having sex but without me ejaculating? So I still would like to be intimate often (every day, few times a week) but without the finish for me.

I actually think there might be a benefit for the female in this type of relationship because I would be extremely sexually charged from abstaining and even the slightest kiss/sexual action would become magnified and more sensual, therefor making me more passionate.

Women, pretend I was a nice guy that you were dating and I presented you my story, what would you think?

I would think a week or two would be sufficient and still keep an active enough sex life, but if you see some advantage, then go for it. Many women would feel frustrated with this regime.

Teasing is what you are doing to your body. You could end up with a blue ball situation. Then if you are hit really hard in the cup it could still have an effect. It would be better not to tease your body that way.

**kristalyn_04** · 01-19-2011 12:07 AM

Well, if it was something you wanted and really believed in, I would deal with it and support it. But would I be completely okay with it? I'm not sure I would be. At least for me, it is important to me that he also experiences pleasure from sex and has an orgasm. Pleasing him and being able to see and feel his pleasure excites me and makes me happy. If I knew I couldn't bring him to orgasm because he didn't want me to for athletic purposes, I would feel like he is being robbed of pleasure, and I would feel like I was robbing him of something and eventually it might frustrate me. Even though I would be sexually satisfied, I wouldn't feel completely satisfied unless I was able to reciprocate it for him, because my partner's pleasure is also important to me. Like I said, I would deal with it and understand it and support it, but I wouldn't be entirely okay with it. But that's just me, other women might feel differently.

**WildChild** · 01-19-2011 12:38 AM

I think you'd have to be one heck of a lover to pull this off.

**wanton** · 01-19-2011 02:01 AM

Without sex you will deaden your vitality and you will not be man enough and your masculinity will be called into question. Sex is a seminal activity and once you lose you will lose one of the greatest Gifts you have got from nature and inherited from society.

You will be an insenstive rock or a bare mountian. Forest yourself with love and sex

**XChiquitaX** · 01-19-2011 02:32 AM

I've heard famous boxers say they do that, BUT they only do it a month before a big fight, not just any training. I reckon it would be okay if you followed that instead, have sex normally most times and only deprive yourself if there's a big event coming up. If you did it all the time you would have too much aggression and there's not guarantee it would only manifest itself in your training, you might become aggressive and moody at other times too.

**stressed** · 01-19-2011 05:11 AM

It depends on the woman's sex drive. Many women find it more pleasurable to pleasure their partners so you'd take that away from her. On the other hand, if sex is not much of a big deal to her, she'd probably be very happy with this.

Just be careful, because you may start the relationship like this and a year or two later might want to go back to having regular sex, and then you might complain that your girlfriend isn't interested in it (because she'd get into this knowing your views about sex). If you decide to make such a decision you should stick to it, or look for someone who will both be alright with "no sex" but also "yes sex" if you ever decide to change.

**Hopeless Dork** · 01-19-2011 05:59 AM

I think a lot of men... would find this kind of thing awesome, i mean if they were the one that could forgo pleasing their lover for months at a time and just get bj's every day :/ But most women? Most women get a deep satisfaction in pleasing their partner (not saying men don't enjoy it!!) just saying that its a huge part of what turns a woman on sexually... the fact her partner desires her, wants her, has to have her.. is pleasured by her. That being said I think if you closed off on sex for a couple weeks before a big fight... that would be understandable by a woman that LOVES you, she'd support you on that. But going 3 months at a time not being able to share in your pleasure? You'd be more suited to find a woman that doesn't enjoy penetrative sex.

I love oral sex and manual stimulation my boyfriend gives... I have the most awesome orgasms, but there is a whole different level of intimacy and satisfaction that comes from making him excited, give him pleasure, sharing mine with him... and experiencing his ultimate result that can not be had by him only pleasing me.

I think the going months while training -- could be counterproductive to how close and loved your partner will feel, despite what you do for HER in the bedroom. You should talk to a medical doctor and find out if the testosterone levels from abstaining 3 months are that much more relevant than obstaining a week or 2 before a fight.

Wouldn't you just start having nocturnal emissions again? I mean wouldn't your body just decide on its own, after going that long without one, that it needs a release?

**uber** · 01-19-2011 10:16 AM

Thank you for the replies.

**hafs1975** · 01-19-2011 02:37 PM

yes all the pleasure for the women ! loads of women find men are selfish and dont get the same amount of pleasure , so the women getting all the fun , dont know many women who would say no to that !