Thread: Beginning to hate my vagina. Am I normal?

Hi guys, thanks for clicking, and sorry about the vulgarity of the title, I had nothing else to call it.

I'm really just wondering if I'm normal, because I'm becoming more aware that I might not be. I mean for starters, my clitoris is small, really small; probably less than half an inch in width, and about the same in length. Is it abnormally small/underdeveloped? or something else?

Secondly, I have large inner labia, like to a serious hanging point. I know all women are different, and there really isn't a 'norm', but just in these terms, is it normal? I'm generally starting to feel really embarrassed around my boyfriend when he touches me down there; I don't really want to fully explain everything to him, we'd both get really uncomfortable, but I just don't know who to ask about this stuff.

Annd finally, pubic hair issue: on me, it grows at the front where everyone has it, right down to my anus, over my labia majora and everything. Does everyone have this? I once read a thing about shaving, and the writer said something along the lines of 'yes, some women even have hair there', which made me feel like a bit of a freak.

Just in general, I don't feel very comfortable with myself, or my vagina. Others I have seen are so pretty, whereas I feel that mine is just shrouded in skin and fat. If I lost weight, would things down there reduce? (I weigh just under 12 stone, which is about right for my height)

I really appreciate your help, I'm starting to go a bit stir crazy here.

Yes, you are perfectly normal.

Most clits are pea size, I'd say a quarter of an inch, but there is no such thing as too big or too small.

Labia come in all shapes and sizes. Some women have almost no inner labia and some have very large lips. There is no right or wrong, and anybody who ever complains about your size deserves a smack upside the head.

Pubic hair comes in all sorts of different growth patterns. Some is long, some is short, some is thin, some is thick, some is soft, some is coarse, some is concentrated above the vulva, and some grows everywhere. Again, there is no right or wrong.

For what it's worth, the grass tends to be greener on the other side of the fence for most people... it's not uncommon to worry that your "stuff," whatever it may be, is too big or too small, too this or too that. But, no, you are perfectly normal.

Thanks for replying.

But my clit is tiny, less than the size of a pea. Do you think this would stop me from being able to orgasm?

I don't think I've ever heard of a woman whose clit size got in the way of an orgasm.

That's very good to know, thanks =]

There is no such thing as an ugly vagina. It's just a matter of learning to appreciate what you have.

I just worry that my boyfriend will be a bit disgusted; or if I talk to him about it, to ease my worries, he'll notice my issues with my vagina and be conscious of it, so it becomes something he cant help but think about

He'd only be disgusted if he were a shallow person. But I'm sure he's very happy with what you have, and you should be as well.