LADIES: How long do you wait to have sex?

**LanaBear** · 01-24-2011 10:42 AM

Originally Posted by Hopeless Dork

To be honest its of such little significance to me that i wouldn't be able to provide an average since I never recorded, not even in my own mind... at which date number I did this or that.

I agree with HD.... I guess if it is possible to go negative, maybe that would be me. I slept with my husband before we even were dating, so, go figure, lol. It's about being comfortable and doing what I want, so I have no interest in counting, lol.

**Texinator** · 01-24-2011 12:11 PM

I think it depends on how well you know and trust someone. If you've known the person for a while and you decide to go on a date, having sex on the first date wouldn't be anything unusual. On the other hand, if your first date is also really the first time that you talk much with them, you might want to wait a few dates. I couldn't see myself sleeping with someone on the second or third date in that case, and maybe not even on the fourth. But everyone is different.

**LanaBear** · 01-24-2011 12:14 PM

That's a good point. It does depend on how well you know them before the dates. In my case, I've never had sex with anybody that I hadn't known for a long long time, however, in hardly any of the cases were we properly dating. It was more of me needing to scratch an itch with someone I knew and was comfortable with.

**kristalyn_04** · 01-24-2011 03:55 PM

I don't keep count either... but then again I've only slept with 2 people. For my first guy, I was dating him for 2 months before I had sex with him. Then the next guy (my former FWB), I slept with him on the 5th date, which was when we had agreed on our "arrangement". For the future, I certainly wouldn't have a set time frame, I would just follow my heart and mind on what felt right. And, as Tex said, it would also depend on how well I knew and trusted him beforehand... I couldn't imagine jumping into bed with someone that I hardly knew.