Thread: Problems having sex

Okay, so bare with me here, this is a long story.

I am 20 now. When I was 18 and in a committed relationship we decided we were ready to have sex. First, he was having issues being hard enough. He would be good to go but then would go soft when it came time to put the condom on. I think it was nerves. We eventually over came that and could move on to the next step of actual sex. The problem was that whenever he would try to enter me it would hurt too much and Id basically push him off of me. I got tired of trying and frustrated, and we broke up not long after for other reasons, so it wasnt an issue for me anymore because I wasnt in a relationship/looking to sleep with anyone.

Fast forward to now, and I am experiencing the same issue. Its less about it being too painful (although it is painful), and more that it just wont go in! I can't figure out why but he cant get inside me. we tried with me on top, with him on top, etc. It does really hurt, but also, it just wont go in.

Other issue are that in general I dont get very wet. Even when I feel like I am really turned on I am still pretty dry. Fingering usually leaves me feeling sore and is sometimes even painful. I can use a tampon.....idk


Does anyone have any advice for me? Could there actually be something wrong with me, or is it just an issue of me needing to suck up the pain for the first few times?

I would say as part of foreplay prior to sex if your partner likes to give you oral you may want to try that. THen when you and your partner are ready for sex yo may want to get some lube. My favorite is just basic KY magic touch gel. Although make sure it's condom capitable if you are using condoms. They sell lubes pretty much in any grocery/drug store... As for the pain you may just be sore from him entering/fingering when you were dry. Now if you are wet next time he goes in you and it still hurts then i'd make an appt with your OBGYN. hope i helped.

Practice with a vibrator/dildo, and yes, lube. This will help with penetration. You should probably spend a lot more time on foreplay before jumping into sex. Women need to be very aroused, I say "dripping wet" before going for penetration with a partner. Have fun exploring each other's bodies, kissing, licking all over, caressing, have him finger you etc...

Well lady bruh, I think you do need more foreplay and lube but from a bruhs stand point it always seems like its that first initial push thats the hardest to get through. Since sometimes the head is a awkward shape for some lady bruhs and the opening is sometimes smaller then the rest of your inside. Not saying tell him to blitz it but its more of a hold your breathe or bite a pillow and tell him to try one big semi slow push just to get through that first point and then you can stop and get in a breathier to see how you feel and if its to much all around then get him out and try again another time.

Master Bruh has Spoken....

There is such a thing as a hymen that does not break I would see a doctor just to get this ruled out.