Thread: Husband ejaculates too soon

Is it true that if a man goes quite some time without having sex, he wont last long in bed?

My husband and I havent had sex in over a month, due to hectic work schedules and the baby and all. We finally had sex last night and he only lasted maybe 45 seconds. He said that if we had sex more often, it wouldn't always be like that. Weird thing is, we've gone longer than that before when I was at the end of my pregnancy and about 3 months after I had the baby(roughly 4 months) and he lasted a good 20 minutes. He's always lasted at least 15 minutes or more, and never less than that. I just figured he wasn't one of those "two pump chumps".

Hello Lady Bruh
A lot of factors can affect a bruhs performance, from being stressed to excited and to the mentioned not having sex in a while. Although not having sex doesnt mean he didnt help himself out. Now he mightve done that during pregnancy but not in the past month due to being so busy.
If it was a one time thing its no biggie most bruhs have an occasional off session. If worst comes to worst you can have him cum before your initial sex and he should last longer the second session.

Originally Posted by rachelharper3

Is it true that if a man goes quite some time without having sex, he wont last long in bed?

My husband and I havent had sex in over a month, due to hectic work schedules and the baby and all. We finally had sex last night and he only lasted maybe 45 seconds. He said that if we had sex more often, it wouldn't always be like that. Weird thing is, we've gone longer than that before when I was at the end of my pregnancy and about 3 months after I had the baby(roughly 4 months) and he lasted a good 20 minutes. He's always lasted at least 15 minutes or more, and never less than that. I just figured he wasn't one of those "two pump chumps".

Yes, it's true:
It's very possible that in those other occasions when he lasted much longer, he had been "relieving the pressure" himself, but did not do so this time.

Maybe he was just really turned on this time. I wouldn't judge based on one episode.

Yeah I wouldn't worry bout it too much, maybe he helped himself when you were pregnant and the last time he didn't and just felt really good to him. Maybe if you try to take a break and spend a bit more time with eachother and not go as fast during sex and tell him to go slow and loving the moment with you. Cause really some times you should talk bout it because this is something you shouldn't just let it slide because you'll get irratated with the fact that he only lasts for less than 1 min. Its a mind set really. If he gets so excited about hes going to just do it and go. But if you two spend a bit time and change position and feel eachother it may help him. Good luck though!

Em

Like the previous posts, I wouldn't be concerned unless it develops into a pattern. Like Jimbeau said, "I wouldn't judge based on one episode". As a male, I completely agree.

This happens with DH and I as well. I agree with previous posters about the possibility that there may have been some self gratification on your DH's part during other times of drought.

Personally I do not mind so much if my DH get's off quick the first time if it has been a while because I can usually get a 2nd round

"Is it true that if a man goes quite some time without having sex, he wont last long in bed?"


YES

Generally, the longer a man goes without ejaculating, the stronger and heavier it will be. It's because the testes fill up completely with fluid and the penis seems a lot more sensitive when touched.