Thread: I can't feel much at all when having sex, except pressure.

I actually hate the feeling of having a real penis in my vagina. It doesn't do anything for me and I just plain don't like it. I DO like having him insert a finger or two, but that's it. I never want his penis in there. (He's okay with that, we do other better things.) My clit is where all the action is. Pressure is the right word. I like lots and lots of pressure on my clit area. I like having my clit area rubbed hard and long and then licked hard and long. Manual stimulation followed by oral. But first I use a vibe to get things going before I even have him start. Lots and lots of mental stimulation in for form of "dirty talk" is great too. I let loose with the most sexy kinky things that pop into my head. But the number one first most important thing is to totally forget about everything else in life while I'm doing it. I think of nothing else the whole time, just myself!

No, I think it's the same experience for many women. I know with me, I don't really feel a whole lot in my vaginal area except pressure. What makes having sex an experience for me is my emotional connection with my partner, the letting loose (getting kinky and wild), the feeling of being filled with him, kissing and touching, the clitoris area (gets me off every time!) and deeper penetration (more-so rubbing deeper inside than pounding or banging) and when he gets off inside of me, just the thought of his semen inside of me is such a major turn-on.

I notice he enjoys the quick in, out, in, out....more than I do. I guess it's that quickness, repeated rubbing on the head of his penis. I would rather him stay deep and rub, rub, rub, my deeper areas at the same time he's rubbing my clit with his pubic area. This can go slow or fast, depending on mood, I get off every time.

Sometimes, we'll both take it slow and focus on what we both feel like inside of each other. That's one of my favorites. He loves it too.

It's all about knowing yourself, experienceing with yourself, and letting him know what you like on top of having an emotional connection and understanding with him, whether you are lovers or friends. Knowing your partner on some level goes long ways.

I have learned though in a very short time stretch that the fiancé you are with is not up to it and he has to work hard on it. I had sex with two partners in a span of one month. Before that I was a virgin, unsexed and suddenly I bumped into one man consciously and deliberately and was thrilled at the act. But nobody for sure knows the ecstasy of it and the first one was satisfying me and was too sweet but the second one bumped into me and did it differently and staggeringly. He touched the insides or all sides of me. I was euphoric.

Now only the comparison tells the truth, the second performed better but I cannot love him and he proves better in bed for me not in life and cannot be a life partner and the fiancé I am with is my soul mate, twin-flame and though he is not arty and maybe he is a learner.

In like manner you have to have patience and go through hormonal checks and maybe it is a hormonal imbalance my dear. Do not hurt yourself and maybe it is your anatomical stuff or his lack of still you cannot say now. There are plenty of books you will have to go through.

I am always exploring into an un-trodden domain wherein I find the wealth of ideas that help me in life

I have to keep reminding my husband that pressure is what impacts the vagina and feels good there instead of the friction that works for him. That's how it's suppose to be. If you want to work off of friction then aim for the clit instead.