Thread: "Almost" Orgasm

Originally Posted by jessikuh

Alright, ladies. I've been googling and googling trying my hardest to find how to help my "problem" and finally, after coaxing from the gentleman, decided to try a forum for answers. Any time that I have ever masturbated and any time the gentleman and I have sex/he orally gets me going, I've had numerous times where I have felt myself get right to the point and suddenly, it disappears. It's like a tease of "OH MY" but there's no release. It's just oh my... god... really? Nothing?! Sometimes, my clit will even be sore afterward but I don't have a release. I have this buildup that just dissipates.

Here's my recent mental image that might help. If I were a guy, right before I was about to ejaculate, my penis went soft. I feel like that would be me if I were a guy and I mean this in all seriousness. I don't know what else to do. I've tried not thinking about it, I've tried thinking about it, I've tried tensing my body and not tensing my body. What am I doing wrong?? Has anyone else experienced this?

Along with allowing your body to relax (tensing up after you hit the point of no return can heighten the orgasm) allow your mind to wander in a fantasy. If you try too hard to reach the peak, you will have a hard time getting there. Go with the flow in a fantasized ideal setting. You may find closing your eyes will heighten the fantasy and heighten the sensations. Then let everything go. Guys have to do this too.

He can help too, by realizing when you are getting close and backing it down for a little while, then building up again. If he does this several times in a row and then works on helping you relax and go past the point of no return, you will experience a life changing orgasm.

I don't know what turns you on the most, but if he is good with his hands and your body language, I would suggest that him masturbating you may work the best as he can help build your fantasy by kisses to everywhere on your face, ears, neck, shoulders and breasts while doing some magic with his hands. He should stimulate your clitoris through the hood if you are too sensitive to direct stimulation. His kisses should not be deep, rather fleeting and random. He should brush his lips against the areas instead of kissing some of the times. He can use stiff lips to lightly pinch your ear lobes, your nose, your lips and your nipples. He can use the free hand to occasionally squeeze your butt, your inner thighs, your stomach, your back and your breasts. If and when you get wet, he can use that wetness to lubricate the clitoris and hood and use faster stimulation. Stimulation includes rubbing, rubbing in circles and gentle squeezing.