It was Painful....Please HELPPP!!!

**britt0601** · 01-31-2011 05:06 AM

Hello Everyone

So last night my boyfriend and I ( both 18) as well as both virgins decided we wanted to plaay around a bit. I allowed him to finger me, it started with him only using one finger, which felt good and was fine until he decided to insert his second finger. It began to hurt me

I was wet while he was doing it, was I not wet enough?

After he was done and before I allowed anything else to happen I had this sensation that I had to urinate. As I urinatated I was burning, it felt like a bladder infection

Is this normal? What was done wrong? Is my hole too small??? Should we be using lubee? Would it helppp? Is this going to happen the first time we have sex? Im kinda worried, Should i be?

Please Helpp!!!!!!!!!

Thanks in advance

**jns** · 01-31-2011 09:32 AM

It is possible you weren't wet enough and as you are a virgin, the lining in your vagina could be very tender and easily cut or torn. This would cause a burning sensation as the urine comes in contact with the small cuts and tears. Give your body time to heal. Try store bought lube and a lot of it the next time and make sure your bf is not too rough. If you are trying for orgasm, you or he need to stimulate the clitoris in most cases.

**groupieindenial** · 01-31-2011 12:17 PM

You wouldn't feel a bladder infection so soon after, but that is good that you urinated right after since that helps flush out bacteria if any was pushed into your urethra. If you feel in the upcoming days increased sensation to urinate, then you may have developed a bladder infection.

You should probably get yourself a small vibrator/dildo and learn how to please yourself by learning to masturbate before going full tilt with your bf. You need to explore what feels good to you. It also will help your vagina accept penetration. In the meantime take it slow with him, use lube and keep it light foreplay and manually stimulating each other.

**ZAIRA** · 02-01-2011 07:37 AM

Originally Posted by groupieindenial

You should probably get yourself a small vibrator/dildo and learn how to please yourself by learning to masturbate before going full tilt with your bf. You need to explore what feels good to you. It also will help your vagina accept penetration. In the meantime take it slow with him, use lube and keep it light foreplay and manually stimulating each other.

I agree 100% everybody is different. The first few times I had attempted to have sex, it just hurt too much, and we had to stop. I figured the reason why was because I was having a really hard time "breaking everything in" And I hadn't figured out what I liked yet. I ended up buying a small vibrator and eased my way into things, most importantly at my own pace. It also helped me educate my boyfriend at the time what needed to happen!