Thread: Raw feeling during sexual intercourse.

For the last few months, when my boyfriend and I have sex, I start having this horrible pain. It's more as he's entering me, it almost feels like I'm raw. I don't have a problem being lubed, we have tried additional artificial lubrications to make sure. Usually, it starts out fine, and I can get through one round perfectly fine. Then, the second time it hurts really bad. We had tried some new condoms, and I thought maybe that was the problem. But the pain is still there even with the old kind. The only other thing that has changed is, he moved for a job, so we don't get to see each other as much. We average getting to have sex, one weekend a month. Whereas a year ago it was atleast once a day. I wondered if it has anything to do with the long periods of time in between. But I'm not sure.
Getting used to being apart has been hard enough, and now it hurts too much to have that special time with him...Please Help!!!

Did you try non-latex condoms?

Originally Posted by Miss_Bee

we don't get to see each other as much. We average getting to have sex, one weekend a month. Whereas a year ago it was atleast once a day. I wondered if it has anything to do with the long periods of time in between.

I think you hit the nail on the head here... Going from almost daily to once a month is probably what is causing the feeling... At one point in time we went through a similar situation and had almost the same reaction when we did finally get busy...
The whole stretching thing going on when you do finally get together (once a month) may be causing micro tears inside, thus producing the "raw" feeling you are having. When you having sex daily, the vaginal muscles are accustomed to being more accomodating (loose [in a good way]if you will have it), and tears don't occur...

Just a thought and I'm far from being a doctor, but seems to me that this may very well be the cause.

I found out i was allergic to latex... I felt as though i was being ripped apart.. and it wasnt until about a 1/2 hr in. Try non latex condoms.. and try a different lube.

Thanks for the replys!!... We've been using condoms everytime for almost three years now. The problem just started a few months ago. So I really don't think they have anything to do with it.
Colorado, what helped in your situation? Other than more sex. That's just not an option right now, my boyfriend works 6 days a week and I'm still in college, and he's two hours away.