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    I prefer her juices all over my face to my juices all over hers. That being said, I would try to do it if she asked.
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    Perhaps you guys could reach a compromise and have him allow you to do the facial.. as in when giving him oral and stroking him as he finishes... you take control of where it goes... you can hold your mouth open and take the bulk of it there, then let it hit your cheeks and roll down your chin... this will give him the visual satisfaction of seeing his orgasm on your face without stuff stuck in your eyelashes... know what i mean? Like you, I love oral sex... and my bf treats me with so much respect all of the time, and especially after intimacy... and especially after intimacy where I have done soemthing extra special like that. Its a gift to your lover to submit to them sexually and to please them... and I think as long as your love treats it like the gift it is, doesn't demand of you, but rather... appreciates when you give -- and it sounds like you have such a man.

    You do sound lucky and I am as well I think in time, you may grow really fond of the different ways you can treat his ejaculation, especially if you love going down on him. Don't feel humiliated, this is not some one night stand, this is the man you love - sharing an intimate moment with you , there is nothing degrading in that... its beautifully intimate in my opinion.
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    Does it sound very awkward to feel like I want to allow him to give me a facial again in the future?
    Doesn't sound awkward to me. Sounds like you realize that it has nothing to do with humiliation as you originally thought it did. Facials are sexy. I was actually a big facial fan for a long time until I discovered swallowing. I very much enjoy swallowing now. We change, we grow, we change some more. Nothing is constant.

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    You may also find that once the novelty wears off that he will mostly lose interest in this. Long ago my wife and I tried anal because I was curious - really wanted to try it. She enjoyed it and we did it frequently. After a while I mostly lost interest (it feels pretty much the same), and she was the one who wanted it often. I think this may be true for a number of sex acts - the fantasy can be more exciting than the reality. For some reason a lot of people are attracted to the forbidden.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rcoreyus View Post
    I think in an ideal relationship, each person will go out of their way to please their partner, even if that means doing things they don't particularly like. I'm not recommending that people do things they find truly disgusting, or painful, but I think it is worth doing a sexual favor for your SO IF (and this is a critical IF) they also go out of their way to please you.
    He does, I have a few kinky fantasies that he is more than willing to try, but for me, the most wonderful part is him going down on me after ejaculating inside me if I haven't had a vaginal orgasm.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Seeker_Advice View Post
    "I've always thought facials to be very humiliating"

    Originally, I stopped reading your thread after reading the above statement. I'm pretty cut and dried about doing things "to" or "with" my partner that she objects to, no matter how much I might think I'll enjoy it.

    Frankly, I think it's that simple...you said NO, you don't like it (or something similar) so there's where it should end as far as I'm concerned.
    Just to clarify, I used to think facials are humiliating mostly due to their prevalence in porn and the way it is usually depicted. It was a very messy and submissive experience, but with the way he treated me, I didn't feel like humiliated at any point.
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    Then I read the rest of your thread about you allowing him to do it, how much he enjoyed it, how he cleaned your face off, etc. and how you still have mixed feelings about it.

    I stand by my original response.....it's over, it's done, it should NEVER be revisited again....special ocassion or not.

    You don't like it. If he LOVES you, he will see that...if not, have him read your thread here, and he should respect you enough to recognize that. IF he doesn't, then that is something different altogether.
    If he would have asked me again to do it, knowing that I don't like it, then we might have a problem. The fact that I first told him I wouldn't want to try it when we talked about it and he never mentioned it again, made me feel very confident. I'm not sure why, but being able to decide myself if and when I want to allow him to do it again makes me more comfortable with the act.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hopeless Dork View Post
    Perhaps you guys could reach a compromise and have him allow you to do the facial.. as in when giving him oral and stroking him as he finishes... you take control of where it goes... you can hold your mouth open and take the bulk of it there, then let it hit your cheeks and roll down your chin... this will give him the visual satisfaction of seeing his orgasm on your face without stuff stuck in your eyelashes... know what i mean?
    Well, he ejaculates quite a bit and we do it often on my body. When he's ejaculating on my breasts, he really gets it all over them and I find it very hot as well. So when we talked about how it is going to happen, he honestly asked me if he can aim it everywhere on my face and I said yes. I get to swallow him a lot, and if I'm doing this for him, then I might as well let him really enjoy it.

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    My lady has told me she is not a big fan of facials herself but she absolutely rocks and allows it because she knows I like it. However this is not something we do all the time which I think adds to the allure, attraction, hottness and yes even the fun of it. Also her wanting to do it just for my pleasure is also a huge turn on, that someone would do something they are not particularily fond of to please you. When it does happen she usually tells me in a soft voice, or wispers in my ear that she wants me to and well that just puts me over the top. Sometimes it happens by accident, usually after a hot sex session and some extra pressure built up, sometimes you just don't know where that stuff is gonna fly. We always get a good chuckle when that happens.

    As some others mentioned finishing on her face everytime would take away from the eroticism of it. We like variety. Sometimes I finish here, sometimes there. But no matter where it ends up she knows she is respected, loved, gets a kiss and a cleanup.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mr. Inquisitive View Post
    As some others mentioned finishing on her face everytime would take away from the eroticism of it. We like variety. Sometimes I finish here, sometimes there. But no matter where it ends up she knows she is respected, loved, gets a kiss and a cleanup.
    I think the variety of happy endings... is AWESOME... if he's the one leading where it will go, its always a treat and surprise to see where it will end up, and even when I am the one directing the semenal disbursement (lol) I usually have no idea what I am going to do until I do, its all heat of the moment and it just adds to the excitement... but like you, my boyfriend kisses me, helps me get freshened up... and I feel more loved and respected than I've ever felt.
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    Wow, you sound just like my loverly wife. I know she doesn't get any direct pleasure from receiving a facial, but she wanted to try it and I know she likes doing it to please me and to enjoy the submissiveness.

    As to becoming a frequent thing, personally, I don't think it has to be an issue. Although she has given me permission to give her a facial when I like to, I know she loves it everywhere else a lot more, so I ejaculate on her face every now and then.

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