Thread: Sex on the first date

Going soft was my 2nd issue I encountered when I began my sexual activity. First issue was finishing too fast. It's simply a case of nerves and overthinking. Just be into it and let him know you're enjoying yourself (directly and/or indirectly) and it should be fine after a while. For me part of my issue was I was far too concerned with her enjoying herself, to the point that I would read into any lack of movement/sounds to mean she wasn't enjoying herself, which was an instant mood kill for me. So her being more active helps a lot because it makes it obvious she's enjoying herself. Granted, don't fake it, if you don't want it, say something, but when you want it, make sure he knows.

Thanks for the comments. It's good to get other people's perspectives and first hand experience. I'm trying to tell myself it wasn't me!
Do you think I should call him up next because it seems he may be embarrassed to?

maybe he has a problem when having sex, i don't think he is conservative, or maybe he's just nervous or first timer. you know there's a lot of factor to be considered. just ask him and open it with him so that everything would be clear.