Do you find the act of sex boring if you do over and over again with the same man?

**wanton** · 02-09-2011 08:20 AM

Of course I do to speak the truth. Yet we stick to them eternally, not just because we frantically love them or we feel at one with them. falsehood lies beneath this statement. We are to be brutally honest sexually so much attracted to multiple relationships yet ethically we stay with a single man. If I unroll what goes inside me I will be labeled "stirred up".

I am stirred up a bit as every body is. If listen to our urges or instincts deeply and sincerely we secretly like to swap husbands. Though we personally become unpleasant if some lady screw our boyfriend we choose to get screwed by someone other than our boyfriend.

I look rather radical here differing from the rest and I enjoy doing this though I sound oddball

**ItsASecret** · 02-09-2011 08:26 AM

I never would want to swap, I am well too aware of disease to want to engage in random romps. I may notice or look at another guy but my morals prevent me for straying from the relationship that I am committed to. If a girl wants to continuously want to engage in random sex, to have consistent fantasies over another man other than her SO, to even have the thought of cheating because simply being limited to the man she says she loves then she should be single and remain that way. Not everyone is cut out for commitment which is absolutely fine but there is no sense in being with someone, saying you love them, and consistently turning around and wishing that you were in bed with another person.

**waya** · 02-09-2011 08:29 AM

No, I actually have very little desire for sex without a deep emotional connection. Besides, there's so much to do and learn when you're with someone you love and both are willing to explore. To me, the fantasy of sex with someone else might be exciting but I know the reality wouldn't be. But I'm not condemning you for wanting different things, just be honest with your partner about it because it's not fair to him otherwise.

**CandieBear** · 02-10-2011 07:37 PM

I would never want to swap. It would be disrespectful to him... and I'd have to seriously injure her! Lol.. I could not do it!!! I love my hubby too much!

**OregonGirl** · 02-11-2011 03:29 AM

Honestly?

Yes. Sometimes sex with the same man over and over gets boring. Sometimes yes we do talk about someday finding another couple who is bored and trying some partner swaping.

Mostly though, we treat it as another form of "dirty talk" and that almost always helps get the juices flowing again. Sometimes just sharing a taboo fantasy together helps make the sex not boring again. =) There are hundreds of other ways to make sex more interesting that don't involve all the risks you take when sleeping with a different person. Lord knows where they've been...

I never have these fantasies by myself, I always share them with my fiance and I'm always the one who initiates them. This leads me to think that my Fiance never really has these thoughts unless I say something. Which makes me feel good. He's had a lot more experience than I have and I think that my lack of experience with other people leads me to sometimes wish I had done more before tying myself down. Not that I am unhappy, but sometimes I do wonder.

**rcoreyus** · 02-11-2011 08:47 AM

I think it depends on the partner. Being with someone who wants to do the same thing (or few things) over and over again could get dull. Someone who is creative and adventurous in bed could remain interesting for a very long time. OregonGirl does have a point that maybe it is better to have wider experience before settling down - even in it is just to know that you aren't missing something.

**wanton** · 02-11-2011 04:50 PM

family is a comfortable setup and we institute it that licenses us easy and effortless sex. Once married we do not have hunt for sex. It is there all the time.

Sex apart, family has other things aplenty. Love, connection, cooperation, wealth and society too and that is we need it.

But it so happens at times that our spouses fail to satisfy us sexually. Monogamy is the general trend and chickening out is a socially disrespectful and disgraceful demeanor.

But appetites at times become so brimful and our men, and of course our women cannot fulfill our urges.
Or to put it simply when we want sex our spouses do not like it or the hormonal content of him or her is not full and want to avoid sex. But love, understanding and social relationship goes intact and perfect. There is the children issue. They need us equally and at times more concernedly.

But life asks for more of us and we cannot be unjust and misgiving or miserly.

If some of our friends, opposite sexes, are out there ready to fulfill our desires, we become unethical from a social lens.

Is not marriage or family a contract? There are some codes and understandings in the contract. The bond is powerful but I am afraid it is delimiting us or it cuts off the wings of freedom.

Should one do breach all these too fulfill some of our never fulfilled urges?

Most of you may say no. Since it involves breach of trust and social contract. But I look at it from a different lens. The first and foremost thing in life is self fulfillment at any cost.

You can differ, since everyone has a different lens to look through

**WildChild** · 02-11-2011 06:19 PM

Perhaps you should look into Tantra.

**sarahlee20** · 02-19-2011 11:16 PM

nope I never did get bored doing it over and over. I really enjoy having sex with people i am with that i care about. In fact there's a couple guys that i was seeing awhile back that i wish i could do it again with. Especially the guy i first really dated in HS. MY HS bf I still miss him alot. I've known him 7 yrs.

**Yamimi** · 02-19-2011 11:27 PM

I would NOT want to be with another guy. I don't know where they've been Hahahha. I'm used to my boyfriend, and even though we don't have sex often, I'd rather stay with him. Besides, if it DOES get boring, then find new things to do with each other.