Thread: Vibrators = Decreased sensitivity?

I've seen this said a few times since I've been here and I'm wondering if it's really true. I use a vibrator every time my fiance and I make love.

I can't have an orgasm without some kind of clitoral stimulation and while I can do it manually during, it's much easier and (to me) feels much better if done with a vibrator.

But I've never been able to orgasm from oral sex or from my fiance using his hand on me. I always attributed it to being because only I just know how to touch myself and the exact right moments to go harder/softer, faster/slower, etc.

Since I've been here reading, I'm starting to wonder now if I'm just desensitized? It would be great if I'd be able to somehow MAKE myself orgasm during oral. I know it would be a big ego boost for my fiance because he always gets so down when he tries and just can't do it.

I don't feel like it's a big issue but to him it seems like it is.

I would say you are desesnsitized. Over or constant use of a vibrator can cause you to become "dependent" on that vibrator to orgasm. The same is true for a man that is a constant masturbator.

Abstain from using the vibrator for a long period of time....couple weeks....month...and reduce the amount of masturbating you do to only those times when you are with your partner and are willing to show him how it's done/what you are doing. All of us know what feels best to our own bodies and we are the best at getting ourselves off. You can teach your partner to be good a t it too.

Oral has been written about to death in this forum. I suggest you/he do a search, using the search window in the upper right corner, and see what you come up with. I am sure there will be plenty of ideas on how he can get you off. There are plenty of men in here who focus on thier partner's pleasure and know how to help him improve his oral technique too. I for one, get my partner off, at least once, every time I give her oral.

For the record, him not being able to get you off by oral or finger stimulation is a HUGE deal to most real men.

Good luck.

A tongue provides its own unique level of pleasure that can't be duplicated by any sex toy, the temperture, texture, wetness .. the unpredictability of its motions and the feeling of your guys head between your legs, pleasuring you... it can't really be beat with a little buzzy thing. HOWEVER... when your body has become dependendant on a vibrator to the clit... it does get desensitized.... so you aren't probably able to experience the sensatations you otherwise would if you laid off the vibrator.

I'd suggest, especially since you said you can orgasm from your own manual stimulation... to do that instead, during sex... rather than breaking out the vibrator. At first, it will feel less intense than your vibe, take longer to orgasm, etc... but once you get use to coming consistantly without one... your clitoris will become more sensitive again to touch... and tongue.

I'm going to give it a try and put the vibrator to rest for a while.

Does anyone have any sources though? Any kind of study or article about decreased sensitivity associated with overuse of vibrators?

I feel like I don't have a problem orgasming manually but maybe I've just forgotten the difference.