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    Do guys get annoyed when girls look to them to be held but then don't give them sex in return?
    I mean it would be a fair trade dont you think?
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    Sex for hugs? Not a fair trade, if sex and relationships are about trading, which they are not. Sex has all sorts of complications that hugging does not. I suppose if that was a reasonable trade off, then hugging someone without permission could be considered akin to sexual assault. You couldn't even hug your mom.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Master Bruh View Post
    Do guys get annoyed when girls look to them to be held but then don't give them sex in return?
    I mean it would be a fair trade dont you think?
    What you are suggesting is that physical affection should equal sex, which I just don't agree with. That would make a woman feel like a sex object rather than being appreciated and cared for as a person. Not every act of affection has to lead to the bedroom.
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    I have a lot of huggy freinds. I have been to cuddle parties (non sexual touch-look them up). Touching and closeness do not necessarily equate to sexual interaction. Thinking that they do is one thing that a guy can do to tank a relationship. If the only times a man touches or holds the woman in his life is when he wants sex, if he acts as if he expects sex whenever he does, she will come to feel that he doesn't love or care for her but only for sex.
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    The trade you are proposing assumes that women don't enjoy sex... and that men don't enjoy being held and snuggled -- and neither of those scenarios is true in most cases. Humans , most of us anyway... seek comfort and contact... no, not when its hot or you're aggitated and need personal space (we all do sometimes) but by and large people crave affection, in fact studies have shown that people that cuddle, snuggle, have a lot of affection with their partners have healthier blood pressure's etc... its actually GOOD for us to be held close frequently.

    Women enjoy sex, good sex that is... of course a woman isn't going to enjoy sex thats only about her partner getting off all the time, and I would think the same logic that thinks hugs should be traded for sex, that logic that sex is for the man... would lend itself to the assumption that the man really isn't attempting to pleasure his partner... which is why she isn't wanting sex and why he's considering that there should be a barter system in place with his significant other to do it.
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    Well it wouldve been better to see the answers that the Bruhs gave to better understand the question but the idea is bruhs dont want to cuddle up unless its going some where which in a lot of bruhs minds is true. Its getting what the lady bruh wants but not the bruh. Cuddling can be very intimate and sex can be very casual its more of how you perceive each cause a bruh could see cuddling intimate and sex not.

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    This is why there will always be room for us older guys who don't need such a quid pro quo type of relationship.
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    Maybe IF you didn't attempt to address us as "bruhs", whatever that is, or anything other then men, on a mature and reasonable level, we might be more inclined to answer.

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