Thread: ideas

Hi all,
Ok i am just going to get straight to the point, i have met a new man he is a lovely person and gets on fantasticly with my daughter only there is one problem,
He is very adventous in the bedroom now dont get me wrong i am not the kind of person to shy away from new things but i am stuck for ideas.
We have tried all the usual type of stuff (role play fun with food toys ect ect) but he wants me to come up with something different and exciting and i am completely stumped for ideas.
Please if there is someone out there who is willing to share some much needed ideas i will be forever grateful.
Many thanks in advance,
Skittles
xx

Surprise in the bed..... when he least expects it text him to come to bed and be tied to the bed wearing only a whipcream and tell him to have his way with you

Take control. Meet him at the door wearing something sexy with a blindfold, put it on him & lead him to the bedroom. Strip him, tie him to the bed and start talking like there is someone else in the room. Move around a lot, a touch here or there, a stocking covered foot on his face, then other bits, a feather, some ice cream, clothes pins on the nipples. Stroke him & blow him for a few minutes, then climb up on his face for a few. Take your wet panties & stuff them in his mouth. Be in control, and take a long time doing it. Get yourself off during the proceedings and let him hear you do it..

Originally Posted by PatrickJW

Take control. Meet him at the door wearing something sexy with a blindfold, put it on him & lead him to the bedroom. Strip him, tie him to the bed and start talking like there is someone else in the room. Move around a lot, a touch here or there, a stocking covered foot on his face, then other bits, a feather, some ice cream, clothes pins on the nipples. Stroke him & blow him for a few minutes, then climb up on his face for a few. Take your wet panties & stuff them in his mouth. Be in control, and take a long time doing it. Get yourself off during the proceedings and let him hear you do it..

its a bit embrassing but we have done all that kind of stuff that is pretty normal goings on for us :s ...........
i need something rather daring and differant but my mind just draws a blank i am a very creative type of person that dont shy away from most things but i am very stuck.

Do you have a feel for what sort of more exotic things he likes? From your other play maybe he has give hints? Rape fantasies? Pegging? S+M? public sex? There are a LOT of different directions to go, but different people like very different things.

ummm i feel kind of embrassed mentioning what he has given not so suttle hints towards but i guess if i am to get any advice i will need to so here goes........
he has hinted the he likes anal (but on him) (strap on ect) i have never done this before n i am not about to judge someone on there likes or dislikes in the bedroom and willing to give it a go for his sake but when it comes to stuff like that i tend to draw a blank with ideas to keep things .... sexy n light hearted any advice will be much appriciated
thanks
skittles

There is nothing wrong with getting kinky in the bedroom, so don't feel embarrassed. However, keep in mind that if it's all kink all the time, those things start to lose its "edge" and not feel as adventurous anymore, rather the norm. So, just my opinion to keep the kinky stuff to just a once in a while treat... there's nothing wrong with the basics and can be very fulfilling with the right person.

Its not unusual for men to enjoy having anal done to them. The prostate gland can be stimulated that way and that can produce very strong orgasms. I think a lot of men object (without having tried it) because it is "gay" - silly since I don't see how anything that doesn't involve 2 men can be gay - and it doesn't matter anyway.


In any case, if you think that is what he wants, and you are willing to try - why not? Unless he has done this a lot, remember to be gentle and use lots of lube. Some people put a condom over the strapon to make it easy to clean up if there is mess (fairly rare). There are lots of variants of strapons that are designed to stimulate the woman who is using them as well. If he is submissive as well, then go tie him to the bed and give him a good spanking first (or whatever he likes). You can "use" him for your pleasure as well.

Role play it - can play many fantasies on this: "punished by an amazon", "forced to orgasm by an evil witch who wants to steal his sperm", "plaything of the empress".

I tend to think of male receptive anal fantasies as submissive, but maybe there are others.

Of course if you do any D/S play have a safe word - but you probably already know that.

Kristalyn is right of course - kinky is fun because it is edgy and adventurous - probably more fun not to let it become common.

Also - now you need to think of what fantasy of yours you would like him to fill.