O.K. Still new but need to know. Another MENS Question

**LadyLena** · 02-18-2011 11:24 PM

The guy I'm dating and I posted about in "Dating", Well I enjoy making love (having sex with him) but everything is slow with him. Now he claims he's trying to make me climax but Gosh darn it, he even penetrates slow. I foudn it wierd that he could ejactulate with such slow thrushing, but he does. Seems I'm almsot there at the same time but woudl like him to step it up a notch. Why do some men NOT penetrate with FAST in and out action. HUMMMM. Hoenstly, I thought as he become closer to his climax he'd start pumping faster but he doesn't. I think I'll be talkign to him about this soon. lol

**stressed** · 02-19-2011 05:03 AM

It may be his way of ejaculating. Depending on the position, you can move faster yourself (i.e. if you are on top) to see his reaction.

**LadyLena** · 02-19-2011 12:23 PM

Been there doen that, lol He did'tn seem to mind at all. lol Thanks Stressed.

**Hopeless Dork** · 02-19-2011 12:53 PM

Maybe he just isnt a high energy person? Is he fit? Does he exercise? Maybe its truly the way he likes to experience the sensations when he's the one in control... or maybe he's just tired?

**LadyLena** · 02-19-2011 03:09 PM

Hopeless dork, I think YOUR right on the money. It's his way becuase if I'm on top, I do my thing my way and he has never said slow down. Thanks for all yoru imput. At times it just becomes a bit frustrating for me becuase I'm almost there and coudl get there if he went a bit faster, I think I may bring the suggestion into the bedroom next time. OHHHH an did just cross my mind. maybe he's holding back a bit because the old saying goes it Takes US longer. Well, I'l have to let him know that is'nt always true either. lol

**jns** · 02-19-2011 08:16 PM

Probably slow is the way he is used to climaxing from masturbating and thus it is what he wants to do when he is in charge. You doing things faster shows him that faster is good, too. You need to point out to him that faster is still good for him and that you need faster to achieve your own orgasm. Try to have him agree to speed up when it will do you the most good.

**PatrickJW** · 02-20-2011 01:52 PM

Sometimes men like it slow sometimes fast, same as you girls. It all depends on whats going on in the procedings. My honey & I keep it varied & we know how & when to step it up so to speak. Also slow and easy from time to time. Don't rush to the destination in lovemaking.....enjoy the trip!

**Texasred** · 02-20-2011 04:57 PM

Originally Posted by LadyLena

The guy I'm dating and I posted about in "Dating", Well I enjoy making love (having sex with him) but everything is slow with him. Now he claims he's trying to make me climax but Gosh darn it, he even penetrates slow. I foudn it wierd that he could ejactulate with such slow thrushing, but he does. Seems I'm almsot there at the same time but woudl like him to step it up a notch. Why do some men NOT penetrate with FAST in and out action. HUMMMM. Hoenstly, I thought as he become closer to his climax he'd start pumping faster but he doesn't. I think I'll be talkign to him about this soon. lol

Better and more effective to talk to him about this than to us!

But why don't YOU try to set the tempo by thrusting against him at the speed you'd like; I think he'll get the message if that takes you where you want to go!
Or just say, "How about doing it like this?"

**LadyLena** · 02-20-2011 09:46 PM

Well things certianly did changed in the bedroom last night all for the good. I loved ALL the advice given, I was jsut concerned that he had soem medical issues or something. Thinks are getting better. Oh and as far as my Question in the dating forum. he did say he wa sin love with me, While we out dancing a beaitufl love song togeather. When we got hoem he repeated it to me a few times and and said with making love. So things look like thery are good to go---oh and he mentioend marriage again!!!! Yikessssss. lol